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Ex colleague making inappropriate comments to their family friends daughter I teach in my new school

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Ghostwalker123 · 18/09/2025 20:03

Looking for advice about a rather strange situation. To give context I left my last school after whistleblowing on my old HOD for tampering with grades when I was the course leader and my name was on the assignment records. I also whistle blew because they and the SLT member of staff pressured a member of staff to rewrite a students coursework. They investigated it and found my claims to be untrue.

A week later I was hauled into a disciplinary meeting where they claimed I had accessed sensitive and confidential information (timetable combing) on my HODS computer. I admitted to this but they decided to go for a disciplinary panel and when the report came the investigator recommended dismissal without notice. The union stepped in and we came to a agreement where I got a good reference and a pay out.

A student parent is close friends with my ex HOD and their partner. They are also in my form and class for my subject. When I first joined they mentioned a couple of times that they knew my old HOD and I always said that they were a nice person etc. I never said a bad word. This student has been told things about my disciplinary by my ex HOD and their partner. This student has then spread rumours to their friends in my form about my disciplinary and that I was hacking my old HOD.

I have spoken to the HOY and told to do a Myconcern. I am not sure what to do now and how to deal with the situation. I have not slept and have a lot of anxiety about my school finding out why I left my previous employment. I don't want to lose my current job as I love my new school and have started fresh somewhere else.

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Stiffnewknee · 19/09/2025 15:19

I’m not sure what good a my concern would do as the child is only repeating what has been said by your ex HOD. I would contact your union to see if there is anything that can be done. I hope you can sort it out but I had a similar situation and unknown to me the bully and the new head were close friends. Because I’d been there less than a year there was nothing I could do about it either. It didn’t go well and ended my career. I didn’t have a settlement agreement though I just left the first school, this might go in your favour.

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