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Can I stomach how badly run my school dept is for the other benefits?

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Shouldijustleave · 24/05/2025 23:09

I love teaching young children and wherever I’ve worked have made positive relationships with my colleagues. I’m good at what I do and really do enjoy teaching.

In many ways my job is a teacher’s dream. We have no lesson observations or book scrutinies.

No-one checks our planning or does learning walks. I have complete freedom to veer from parts of the curriculum that I feel are not as important as others.

I am fed a delicious hot meal for free twice a day, my classroom is beautiful and massive and the school grounds are very spacious and beautiful.

The majority of employees are kind and friendly.

BUT… The management are liars, they don’t allow any feedback and treat you as though you are a difficult child if you suggest more efficient or updated practices, they are a boys’ club and my department is solely represented by one woman who just agrees with the rest of the men in senior management and never EVER circles back to important issues in our long, often pointless drawn-out staff meetings where nothing is ever decided.

It is doing my head in!

She piles loads of work on my team and I’m the only one who does it but she doesn’t notice this and just praises my whole team, despite knowing that everyone else leaves at 3:45 and I’m always there late.

Many of the teaching assistants are awful, either point blank refusing to do anything or shouting at our boss because they aren’t happy with the classroom they’ve been asked to work in the following year. One drinks alcohol in their keep cup at work and also refuses to work.

Perfect strangers in the management team who dont come across us from one year to the next carry out our 2 yearly appraisals and our line manager has no input. TAs have no performance management at all and are even asked to spy on teachers who are on performance management plans and feed back to our manager.

There is no feedback at all from our line manager and I’ve had colleagues leave who have been given bad references about things like not answering parental emails quickly enough but this colleague had only ever been told they were great. When my manager was questioned about why she did this she said it was the head master who wrote it but when my colleague asked him he said it was our line manager (more likely because we never see him!)
Eventually she admitted it and offered to retract this but by this time my friend hadn’t got the job.

My team asked for a phonics scheme and were told we’d spent £2000 on one a few years before. I reminded her that I had bought the resources and it wasn’t £2000 it was £500 at which point she giggled and said that the dusty old phonics books donated to us by the SEN dept was included in that sum. I asked if we’d had to buy them and she said that she’d just rounded it up to £2000.

We are allowed to run holiday clubs but members of senior management take cash in hand and get their random wives in to run them while we have to be taxed for this.

I’m beginning to see thar my line manager is quite a bully (not to me) but I’m feeling as though there’s no way of being fully happy somewhere where nothing is run properly.

My line manager gaslights the bejesus out of all of us and bullied others while not doing her own job properly. She writes fake data into our end of year results and seems not to understand the most basic maths.

I want her to leave and am baffled as to how she’s managed to secure the position she had. It’s like being managed by someone with a very low IQ and the upset is all so unnecessary.

I don’t report for the obvious reasons.

Should I leave or stay for the benefits?

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BG2015 · 25/05/2025 07:41

Is this for real? Are you in the U.K.?

Sweetbeansandmochi · 25/05/2025 07:44

Sounds private to me.

You can only control what you can control.
Do you like your day to day? Does it work for you?

Do you have an exit plan for when/if they turn on you?

Shouldijustleave · 25/05/2025 15:59

Sadly it is for real. Yes UK.
I feel as though I’ve been unknowingly eating poisoned food for a long time and now I’m not feeling very well.
I want to leave because most schools are toxic in their own way but at the same time everything I’ve described is making me feel like the whole place is damaging my career path.

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Shouldijustleave · 25/05/2025 16:13

I’ve been writing my CV, saving all my work on an external drive, photographing amazing work and displays etc.

I've also been going on every bit of cpd going, courses from management to pastoral to Sen to EDI and outdoor learning and I’ve been volunteering to be on parent teacher panels to improve the school.

Im really hoping I’m armed enough to leave.

I’m really worried they’ll give me a bad reference as this is what they did to a previous colleague because they are petty and very insulted that she had the audacity to leave. Anyone can find things wrong with someone and because they lie without thought, I’m feeling trapped.

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BG2015 · 25/05/2025 16:19

Have you had Ofsted recently? What did they make of your school?

Sweetbeansandmochi · 25/05/2025 16:19

You are not trapped. It’s a feeling not a fact.

It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Next step is to apply for a new job.
Use it all as feedback - if you don’t get an interview- tweak your application for the next job etc.

By starting this thread you have answered your own question. You do want to leave.

Re:reference - they should not be giving a bad reference. Minimum is confirming your dates of employment. If they do- you may have to sort it out for the subsequent job interviews.

Less worry now - more action will get you where you want to be which is in a different school.

Shouldijustleave · 26/05/2025 16:54

BG2015 · 25/05/2025 16:19

Have you had Ofsted recently? What did they make of your school?

They don’t get ‘OSed’ (they’d be closed down if they did!)

We had an ISI inspection and the good differentiation in my lesson was the only lesson observation mentioned in the entire inspection write-up and not one senior manager acknowledged this despite it being obvious it was my lesson due to the observation timetable.

ISI are bizarre, they missed the fact that we have no scheme for maths, phonics or Literacy.

They missed the fact that none of the school development targets are ever met year on year not shared with staff. Very strange indeed.

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