Breach of position

[Johnmichael25]

Hi,

have made an account as I’m unsure how to handle this.

have been dating a primary school teacher for around 4/5 months.

this teacher has started to share information about two of the children in her care

the info told is what the ‘trouble’ children get up to and what they have done. In particular one child she told me where they live - what is going on at home and how social services are involved. I know both these children’s names.

i always wondered why she was so open about this. I’ve mentioned this to a friend of mine who said I should report her.

i don’t know if this is a little drastic as she is my partner. But on the same note I would not be happy with a teacher discussing my child’s issues ( I don’t have children.

what are people’s thoughts on what I should do. I would assume if investigated the info would be classed as highly confidential and potentially safe guarding issues.

The next time you are on a date and she starts to talk about the issues, tell her your worries about her discussing them. Suggest that perhaps you stick to 'date' topics and conversations. I think if you've been dating for 4-5 months this conversation shouldn't be a problem.

@Johnmichael25
I also agree that you should discuss this with her. She needs to know that she deserves better! You clearly don’t have a clue how stressful teaching is and if she can’t offload things to her partner without fear of being reported then she’s better off without you! The fact that you’d actually consider reporting someone you’re romantically involved with is disgusting! It’s not as if she’s admitted to child abuse or something serious, it sounds as if she’s merely offloading. If you think this is unusual then you’re completely deluded! The poor woman!

She hasn’t offloaded. She has gossiped about what sounds like safeguarding issues with specific references to specific children and told a complete stranger where they live. I’m a teacher too and very concerned about your attitude towards this.

ETA I wouldn’t report her, but I would tell her that it’s probably best not to discuss personal information with someone you’re dating. Where you go from there is up to the two of you.

If you report her do you think you’re going to carry on dating?
Id just break up with her. Tell her your reasons why. That’s the fairest thing to do.

@ItsUpToYou
I was a teacher for many years and I’m very concerned by your attitude as a human being!
It does not sound remotely as if she’s gossiping! Even if she was, her actual partner considering reporting her is despicable! I can’t believe you’re condoning this!

Something doesn't ring true about this. Why an earth would anyone come here for advice about whether to report their own partner? If you report her, I would imagine she would just leave you! And surely, as her partner you wouldn't want to get her in trouble!

I talk about kids I teach to my family all the time. I don't go into any great personal details but do talk about the funny they say or about how stressed I am regarding certain classes or a particular child. I need to offload sometimes.

Your girlfriend is perhaps giving too much personal information out but I'm not sure if it's a reason to end your relationship with her. Just talk to her.

Exactly! Imagine posting on the internet rather than actually discussing this with your partner! It really doesn’t sound as if the OP even likes their partner!

She obviously trusts you to be sharing this.
personally I wouldn’t report her. If you’re uncomfortable then end the relationship and tell her why.
i think this is probably fairly normal to share as as a primary school teacher though (not necessarily names & addresses)
It’s a stressful job and it’s normal to offload to a partner. Perhaps you’d be better dating someone with a different career.