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Making a big move

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freakingoutandcantstop · 18/08/2024 19:06

Hi,

I'm about to make a huge move - half way up the country relocation; we have a few days to go and I'm freaking out.

When I made the decision I was in a bad place in my role. I resigned at Easter and left at the end of term. In the interim, I went for several jobs and was offered the post at all the interviews I attended. Lovely, and this confirmed the issues wasn't me at my previous school - it was just toxic there.

DH and I had talked about relocating many times over the years so we decided to take the plunge and I took the job that involved a big relocation for me and my family. The additional bonus was my own DCs can attend much better schools too. We found a great house to renovate, lovely market town.... what's not to love right?!?

But now I've settled down and am out of the toxic school. My emotions have calmed and I think we made a huge mistake. I was running away, and now it's over, I regret it hugely.

One of the interviews I attended and got the job was another local school. We could have moved towns locally for better schools for our own DCs and the upheaval would have been much less significant.

As it stands we move on Friday and I'm falling apart over it. Feel like I've let a toxic school could my judgement and now there's no going back without huge stress and drama.

The contract on the houses haven't exchanged yet. I could pull out but we wouldn't have school places for the kids as I've given them up where we love now and new ones are sorted.

What the hell do I do? Move and hope for the best? Help!

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freakingoutandcantstop · 19/08/2024 12:59

Anyone?

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PumpkinPie2016 · 19/08/2024 20:12

I'm sorry you were in such an awful school 😔 it can really take it's toll and I'm not surprised you're feeling wobbly about such a big move.

I think the nerves are normal- it's a big step, unknowns etc. And you are bound to be anxious.

Try to remember that nothing is permanent- worst case scenario, you could give it 12 months and move if it isn't working.
However, things sound very positive and it is likely that all will be well. Focus on getting the move done and term started- remember, September can be busy and stressful regardless of where you work so maybe give things until half term and then reflect on how things are going.

Best of luck!!

freakingoutandcantstop · 19/08/2024 22:52

Thank you. The roller coaster of emotions is horrendous - feels never ending. My eldest is in floods of tears every day which is absolutely awful to see. It's breaking my heart

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TortolaParadise · 20/08/2024 21:25

Move on - fresh start. Enjoy the next chapter.

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