Not sure I fit in :(

[PumpkinPie2016]

I can't give too many details here in case it outs me, so apologies in advance.

I started a new school in Sept (brand new secondary so all staff are new).

I love the actual job (I am a HoD), kids are great. I love teaching and doing my extra curricular stuff. Head is happy with my work.

Everyone else in school is nice enough , I'm not being bullied or anything like that. However, I just don't feel like I fit socially. It's hard to explain really. I went on the Christmas do and had a nice time, and I have done my best to chat with people, so I do try.

I just feel I don't quite fit. I see other staff (of all levels) chatting away about non work stuff but I don't seem to have any conversations like that. I do think it's magnified as we are in a small building currently until our main one is finished.

I worked in two schools before this, one for 5 years and one for 6 and always felt I had people I could go and have a chat/mutual moan with but not in my current school 😔

I realise no one could actually solve this for me, but just wanted a vent/to see of anyone else has experienced this. Part of me just thinks, focus on the kids/work and don't worry about it, but it's quite a weird feeling. We move to the new build soon so at least we will be more spread out and it may not be as obvious.

I get this feeling- I've also recently started at a new school, and don't really feel like I fit that well.

At least if it's a brand new school, there will be a lot more staff joining in September, so maybe you'll have some people you click with then?

@Postapocalypticcowgirl sorry you feel this way too 😔 it's rubbish isn't it.

You are correct that more staff are joining in September so there may be others I fit with. I think it's just come as a surprise as I haven't experienced it before.

I think moving to our new build will help as at the moment, everyone is under each other's feet and it can be a bit cliquey in the staffroom.

Hopefully, we both find our feet soon!