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Crying at year 1 drop off time

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TrigTri · 05/10/2022 06:45

There is a girl in my year 1 class who is distressed to come into school every morning. She hides behind her mum, clings to mum’s legs and screams. I have to hold on to her to prevent her from running after her mum every day. According to her reception teacher, she was not like this in reception. I have run out of ideas of how to help her. She is a bright, articulate child but when she is in this mindset she hardly speaks or only says things like “I want home time right this second”. She seems to be both sad and angry, but she cannot explain how she feels. After 10-15 minutes she calms down and participated in the class like nothing had happened. The mum is extremely supportive but the school is toxic and I just don’t know what to do. Has anyone else successfully turned this kind of situation around?

It’s a year 1 class with no TA support so whatever I do cannot involve having an additional adult. The children are supposed to come in and start straight on morning work, so I’m supposed to be teaching handwriting to a group during the time I’m helping this girl to come in. The head teacher is not happy that my class are so behind in handwriting but I can’t work with a group while also bringing her in. Our timetables are so full that it’s really hard to get handwriting in anywhere else, so I’ve only managed to do it a couple of times this term instead of every day.

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GetTheGoodLookingGuy · 05/10/2022 07:20

Can she come in a few minutes early to do a job for you (putting out the pencils/handwriting books etc). Something to give her a chance to settle before the others arrive and a reason to come in, so she's not just fixated on wanting to go home. This has worked a treat with reluctant children I've worked with in the past.

Failing that is there a TA from elsewhere/member of the pastoral team who could do a meet and greet with her? I've done that before for a child - met her at the door and then had a two minute chat on the way to class to help settle her and give her some attention.

TrigTri · 05/10/2022 07:27

We have had her coming in early to do a job and she is fine to come through the door then, but goes through the same crying and following when mum leaves.

There is no chance of getting another adult to help. The school is extremely toxic and the response when I ask for help is just that I should plan better activities to entice her in.

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TeenDivided · 05/10/2022 07:32

Not a teacher, but my DD had trouble transitioning on and off throughout primary.
Has the Mum tried a transition object, and/or a star chart?

toomuchicecream · 05/10/2022 16:33

Can she come in through Reception? Then be brought through to you once mum has gone? Worked well for one of my pupils!

toomuchicecream · 05/10/2022 16:34

Meaning, the familiar EYFS classroom, not the front office! (Although that’s also an option)

JanglyBeads · 05/10/2022 21:34

Any clue as to why it's changed withY1? Did she display any issues last year? Has anything changed at home?

SpringIntoChaos · 06/10/2022 06:53

I had a child like this last year in Year 2...but my school were more supportive of him (although not of me, and blamed me for his 'change' in behaviour...which as it transpired several months later was nothing to do with me, but that's another story!)

Anyway...the 'fix' was that mum brought him in through the front door, 15 minutes AFTER everyone else. This meant that there was no hustle and bustle of playground, cloakrooms etc and we had already done our morning settling routine. He'd then be brought down to class, his maths book would be open ready on the table, with the date/LI in and first sheet stuck in, and he'd just sit down and join in wherever we were up to 🤷‍♀️

This went on right up to Easter! And it's happening again in Year 3 right now!

Minimochi · 08/10/2022 19:24

I've had a few kids like this in the past few years. I usually just ignore it as much as possible and try to be incredibly cheerful when getting them in. Most of them managed to calm down quickly when nobody fed into it.
However, it isn't really an issue at ours. We have morning activities ready for them but I'm not overly fussed if someone just needs a littlenlonger to settle and sort themselves out. Our head and deputy are on gate duty every morning. They will bring in those children, who need additional support and reassure parents that it'll be OK.
If your head is having such an issue with you not doing handwriting, perhaps he/she either takes that handwriting group in the mornings or supports the child to enable you to do it. Seriously, some members of SLT need to get those sticks out of their arses...

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