For background:
I currently work 3 days a week and job share in EYFS with another teacher. I qualified last year so am relatively new to the profession.
I get on really well with my job share on a personal level but work wise I find her quite selfish. I feel like I have been doing the brunt of the work for example organising school trips, messages to parents, end of year stuff, moderation, transition, ordering etc. My job share has opted out of most of the above by saying that she doesn’t have time. I get it, I am. exhausted too but they are all things that need to be done, so somebody has to do it and I just seem to always be doing it. She will also just come in at the end of the week and just make random decisions without consultation like the class name, school timings and infuriatingly, things that need to be done on my days.
I have spoken to my phase leader but no help there. It is making me really anxious because I do everything on my 3 days and then on my 2 days off, I will get a random message asking me to ‘perhaps if I could…’ or try to change something that she hasn’t done any leg work for. If I give her reasons why I have put certain things into place (like timings for transition morning on my work day) she will blatantly ignore me and just do as she pleases. Worst still, she will patronise me with “It will be ok Hun.” type comments. I know it will be ok! I just told you how it could be better than ok though! I don’t want to be worrying on my days.
How do I address this with her in a professional manner? Can somebody please give me a sentence that I can say in an easy-breezy but serious way to get her to stop?