Resigned but asked to stay

[Anon7774]

I resigned mid November to leave at Easter. I gave plenty of notice considering resignation for Easter date was actually yesterday. My head whose an absolutely lovely woman has been very supportive of my decision, but today requested if I can stay till July as a favour to them as they finding it hard to fill my role.

I made it clear no I cannot but been asked to think over it and let her know end of week.

I’m really struggling with life, kids and husband and she knows it so is she being a CF by asking me this? Should I feel guilty? Is there any benefit for me to stay?

Just for context I am not going to another job and money is not an issue if I don’t fit for a year or so. Once I’ve sorted myself out I can easily find another job or even supply. I have supplied when my kids were very young and I loved it. Would love to do supply again so not in huge need to stay in this job. What shall I do?

work not fit*

Part time an option?

Many staff are part time but more stressed as timetable is condensed into the days they work. They are also expected to come in on days off. Tbh there has been lots of resignations so part time wouldn’t solve it.

Stick to your guns and say your goodbyes. She is being a cf but you don’t have to let her.

Are you primary or secondary? I know we are having a really hard time recruiting staff as two are leaving at Easter. (I'm primary) yet there seems no end of secondary teachers looking for jobs and struggling.

You have no obligation to stay. Tell her you are sorry you cannot stay. You don't need to give a reason why, the less you say the better.

Thank you.

If your pension is currently based on your last 12 month's final salary then asking for a retention TLR could boost your future pension.

If the OP is struggling with the demands of the job and her family, @NotAnFA then I don't see how chucking a TLR in will help with the stress.

OP, go ahead with your original plan and leave at Easter or you may be guilt tripped into staying next year as well.

@MyCatEatsPrawnCrackers

If the OP is struggling with the demands of the job and her family, *@NotAnFA* then I don't see how chucking a TLR in will help with the stress.

OP, go ahead with your original plan and leave at Easter or you may be guilt tripped into staying next year as well.

Not offered as "advice" merely an option. The power lies entirely within the OPs hands. They should not feel guilty for putting their own needs first, ever. If however, they do consider caving to the request then by putting in an absurd TLR request that they can be sure will be turned down they have 'offered'. Of course, if it were accepted then they still don't have to actually go through with it as they have handed in their notice in accordance with the contract.

Leave as planned. Otherwise they'll start saying they can't recruit for September so can you stay til Christmas and so on... It's not your fault school teaching is an impossible job at the moment and no-one wants to do it. This is a time when you should look out for yourself.

I don't think she is being a CF. She hasn't been able to recruit and wants to make sure there isn't any possibility of persuading you.
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I think you should just say "No, that's not possible". You don't have to give a reason. I think you should stick to what is best for you. You've made your decision and you have to look after yourself.

Be a CF back, and ask for a significant pay rise

Simply say ‘ I understand recruiting is difficult and I’ve thought carefully about your request, but regret my decision to leave at Easter still needs to stand. ‘

Good to show you’ve given it thought. Reasonable to show that you need to prioritise yourself.

The school will be expecting you’ll still go….but they lose nothing by asking. It is fine to say ‘no’. Sorting this out is down to them and not your responsibility. Good to show sympathy with their difficulty but this doesn’t stretch to taking that burden on yourself.

But leave out "regret".