Dreading going back after mat leave
Geordiebabe85 · 20/08/2021 09:52
I am so stressed right now. With lockdowns I haven't actually been in a classroom for 18 months and I go back full time in 2 weeks. My dd is 12 months and due to start nursery next week. But she's had d & v for a week after her first taster session so looks unlikely she'll start. I've got so much prep to get done.
I'm panicking so much about how ill cope doing full time and looking after dd. I've been given a really tough class and I just don't think I can go back.
PumpkinPie2016 · 20/08/2021 10:10
Ok, deep breath! I remember going back full time after my son and it is hard at first, but it does get better and it is manageable
Sorry that your daughter has had d&v. They do tend to pick stuff up when they first start. However, she should be ok to start in 2 weeks? Do you have any family help? A partner/parents? If so, can you plan with them who will do what if dd is ill and can't go to nursery?
In the first 6 months of nursery, my son had a lot of ear infections. DH and I shared the load of time off but my mum also helped a lot which I will be eternally grateful for!
With the prep for school, break it down into very small chunks. What do you absolutely have to get done? Break those tasks down and do those. Everything else can wait. One thing I had to accept when I first went back is that sometimes, things just have to be good enough. You no longer have time to spend ages faffing about making a fancy PowerPoint or putting nice borders on a worksheet. It needs to be functional enough so the kids learn and no more. Look on TES/twinkl for resources and use those. I'm not primary so can't offer resources but maybe others can help with this.
Do as much as possible in school time. Use your lunches/PPA/any time you can have before/after school while nursery is open to do your work. Less to bring home that way.
At home - lower your standards a bit at first. Simple evening meals, basic cleaning and make sure yours and DD clothes are ready each night. I organise all of ours on a Sunday for the week.
Do you have a trusted colleague you can talk to for a bit of support? Who taught the class last year? Can they offer advice on what worked?
It's hard at first but you will get into the routine of it. I found the Autumn/Christmas term the most difficult and then it started to get better.
Geordiebabe85 · 20/08/2021 16:37
Thank you! I know you're definitely right about lowering my standards (at home and work!) and I suppose it's just a case of prioritising.
Unfortunately we don't have anyone close by who can help us in an emergency so it'll be a case of me and oh having to just take it in turns to be off. I'm just hoping that she won't be as ill as she has been this time. I think its the fear of the unknown that's really getting to me.
jjejj · 21/08/2021 09:23
Going back after maternity leave is incredibly difficult, I've done it twice returning full time and hated it. I think you have to be kind to yourself and accept, both at work and at home, everything won't be perfect. After the first term it definitely gets easier as you get used to juggling everything. If it's a year group you are familiar with it definitely helps as does a good year group partner and/or LSA. Good luck
Geordiebabe85 · 21/08/2021 09:51
Thank you. I have a great year group partner so hopefully that will help.
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