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Whether you're a permanent teacher, supply teacher or student teacher, you'll find others in the same situation on our Staffroom forum.

To try elsewhere or not....

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Mo2020 · 23/07/2021 21:22

Hi everyone, I'm interested in your experiences and opinions, particularly if you struggled when you first started teaching.

I have just finished my RQT year in a great school that has a lot going for it. I really struggled in my NQT year with behaviour management and received some great support from a select few members of staff and pulled through. My RQT year has been better, but I still feel like I have some work to do on my behaviour management and forming relationships with tough students. Most other aspects of my teaching are going well and I have been praised a lot for the planning I've contributed to the department. I have made some great relationships with a select few members of teaching staff and generally on a day to day basis I just plod along nicely.

My concern is that I feel incredibly intimidated by senior members of staff, SLT, my HOD, even just more experienced members. I am concerned that many judge me for struggling and that my reputation may be stuck now after this. I know most people will not care enough to have an opinion but my gut is telling me that I am known as the girl that struggles a bit with tough classes. My school has a lot of extremely ambitious and confident leaders and those that are highly liked and respected are either those who arrived with experience, those who didn't struggle in their first year or those who are able to blag it and fake it until they make it. This is not me unfortunately, I lack self esteem and confidence in myself. In many ways I almost feel like my confidence is diminishing in this environment, like it is a sink or swim dynamic, in which I'm struggling to keep afloat amongst everyone else. It is a real catch 22 situation as this holds me back from putting myself out there and getting to know people. Basically, it has really effected my confidence to the point where I don't feel worthy of speaking to many people.

Even though I am not as confident as some extremely confident members, I am naturally quite an outgoing, bubbly individual and it makes me really sad that I can't be who I really am.

Should I move on? Will this change if not?

In the wider scale I also appreciate that there is a lot of good in my school. SLT are generally very fair. There are supportive measures in place to help staff. The head is the right mix of relaxed and professional and staff welbeing is a priority. I'm beginning to become more well known by the students. I have formed some good bonds with my team members. I have a great work/life balance and I am now pretty confident in what I am teaching having had two years experience of it.

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BackforGood · 24/07/2021 01:07

I think I'd re-read your last paragraph and value all those things.

There are a LOT of schools where that doesn't apply.

I mean, there are schools that are in really difficult areas and have huge amounts of behaviour issues, but I'm presuming if your school were one of those, you would have mentioned it. If it were, then it might be you'd find life a bit easier in a less challenging school, but, as you haven't mentioned that as a factor....

PumpkinPie2016 · 24/07/2021 07:15

It sounds like there is lots to value at your school? A decent head, fair SLT and good work/life balance?

Many people find behaviour management challenging at first but you have absolutely done the right thing to seek advice and follow it. My NQT this year struggled with a couple of classes but he also took advice and is much better with it now. We certainly don't think bad of him because of it, quite the opposite, we think he's done really well to seek advice and implement it.

Please remember as well that your NQT year was disrupted due to covid and this year has also been disrupted. I can honestly say this year is the hardest I've ever done in teaching!

The kids are also out of sorts because of the disruption which will impact their behaviour.

It sounds to me like you are doing well so my advice would be, stick at the same school for another year (hopefully, things are becoming a bit more normal again!) and see how you feel after that.

Hercisback · 24/07/2021 07:29

Stay.
Behaviour management gets easier the longer you have been somewhere. You know more kids names (the most powerful tool) and you get a reputation for sticking around.

Use your ECT time (if you have any, will depend on what your school is doing with RQTs) to observe people that are good at behaviour management. When you observe go with a focus, eg what's their lesson start routine? What is their voice like? How is low level misbehaviour dealt with? How do they get/keep students on task? If the staff member has time, a 5 min debrief can be really useful too. Read Tom Bennets book on behaviour and critically reflect on your classroom and reasons why your behaviour management may not be as strong as others. Ask people to observe you and give feedback on behaviour management.

I could have written parts of your post 6-7 years ago. I stuck with it and my confidence has grown so much.

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