Resilience as a student teacher

[Flingoo]

I'm not event a student teacher yet, have been volunteering in school since September. Start my SCITT in September.
I've had so many amazing days in school I can't even count them. But today I really failed to reach the child I was trying to help and it's weighing on me,
I tried several different approaches, I tried to make suggestions in different ways. We looked at work another student had done and pointed out pros and cons. Identified the great stuff in the child's work but what needed editing and just a total blank shut down.
I know I'm probably being entirely newbie about this but I also know I'm not going to get it right every time. So I guess I'm asking how to help when children refuse. And also how to cope when children refuse help!

Primary...I should've said

I've been teaching for 6 years, I still have plenty of moments like this. But in general I think:

1. When children refuse, it's rarely about you and one interaction is not going to make a significant difference to anything. It's about the relationships you build over time and the quality of your teaching, both of which will come with experience. Sounds like the relationships are already a strength and something that's important to you.
2. The coping will get easier. It might sound cynical but the longer I've worked with children (and I was a TA for a few years before training as a teacher) the less 'personally' I took the tougher moments. You just start to care a bit less. And I think this is a good thing, at least it was for me - you need to be able to focus on what you can change and not dwell on what you can't. Do you have a good mentor in school that you can talk to? Different teachers will have different strategies.

I'm teaching nearly 40 years and this could still happen so don't beat yourself up. Just move on. Children have bad days, we have bad days but all we can do is get up and get going again.

These things are really hard as a student.

As a fully qualified teacher, you'll have more self confidence (which children sense) and more presence. You'll also build up more of a relationship with a child and their parents, so you'll know more about their life and their personality. Some children will refuse to your face but complete it after a while if you leave them alone, others might like you to sit beside them. I'd sometimes offer that I'd do the writing and they could dictate.

You should also have a school behaviour policy, which you may or may not choose to use in this scenario.

Sometimes it just comes down to picking your battles, and at this time of year, it's nearly time to down tools, everyone's tired and hot... you might just let know you're unhappy and hope that they will try their best after break/tomorrow.

I had forgotten I posted this. It was late and I couldn't sleep with worrying about it.

Thank you so much for your responses. I know I need to build on my strategies and resilience. As I left that day I told him I was looking forward to seeing his amazing work when I was next in and I saw him two days later -randomly in a shop - and he rushed up and told me he'd done it and couldn't wait to show me ❤️