I don’t disagree with your last statement!
But I will say I work in the independent sector and it’s certainly not all sunshine and roses. Different, yes. Easier, not necessarily. It’s also not too late for you to seek employment in a private school and give it a whirl. Are you primary or secondary?
My prep has specialist teachers who like to focus mainly on their own subject but want to work in primary and year 7 and 8. That’s a great opportunity.
Small class size (I teach reception and have 16 in the class) makes things easier but the pressure just changes. It’s high, parents are paying a fortune so it’s an interesting juggling act of the pushy parents verses those who want so much attention for their money verses some very over precious parents who’s child “could never go into a state school” verses regular parents. Thankfully the latter generally out numbers the former but when there’s money at stake and no waiting list because it’s getting harder to afford, it just shifts the pressure in a different direction.
In theory the work load is somewhat less because I’m preparing half the books and marking half the work and inputting the data....but it makes up for itself in other ways. Those “extras” that need to be thrown in - my class does a full stage production every term. ,My interventions program is through the roof.
There are pros. Our resources are much more significant and higher in quantity then the state school I was in. I can order twenty pritt-stick and they’ll arrive the next day, Thee are less children. The parents are generally much more involved (why wouldn’t you be for £15k a year).
I thankfully have a wonderfully supportive school which makes a huge difference.
So I don’t disagree, but the grass isn’t always greener, sometimes it is, but most importantly it’s also up to each person to aim for what they want and give it a try even if it goes against advice.
And I say this as someone who’s family don’t really respect my job. I get that,