How to handle relationships during teacher training

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Lately ive felt a bit guilty that I've neglected my relationship. Teacher training can be tough some days I feel like I have to just put my partner on the back burner while I focus

Good time to find out if your partner has the stamina to commit to a teacher. You are available more in the holidays, and for your own good as much as theirs you need to protect a weekend day from school stuff, but it’s a demanding job.

Yep that’s how the job works.

Dh and I have weeks where we barely have time to talk to each other. It’s hectic, but then we get to spend loads of time together in holidays which is the payoff.

We know we won’t have much time in the week but Friday night is always time we spend together & we make sure there is one day on the weekend when we don’t work too.

I'm doing teacher training and I'd heard how intense it was so before I started I basically told my partner I wouldn't have much time for him. He understands and does extra things to help me like make me dinner when I get home and have to just keep working. A good partner should understand. You're not 'ignoring' you just literally have less time for them because of work.

This continues throughout a teaching career. My partner is used to it now. I work after toddler bedtime/dinner five nights a week as late as I need to, to ensure that weekends are protected. Working with my laptop on my knee on the sofa does help though, as it means we are physically together, even if I’m not mentally present!

If your partner has your interests at heart, they’ll pitch in to support you during term time and you can then make it up in the holidays.

It's a learning curve for you both. Your partner needs to accept the early years are tough, but you need to accept that relationships need nurturing if they are to survive.

Teaching can fill as much time as you allow it. I could easily fill 60 hours a week if I was prepared to, but my husband and children come first.