"we can't keep on moving your child"

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Ds age 7 moved to new primary in October due to house move. Due to covid hasn't had much the to make new friends yet. Was initially sat next to child A. Child A apparently kept trying to hurt DS ( nipping) kicking when teacher wasn't looking etc). I spoke to the teacher who moved DS to sit with child B. Apparently child B calls DS names and accuses him of eg stealing the Lego ( untrue). Spoke to teacher again who said will sit DS next to someone else "but we can't keep moving your child!". Wanted to say "well deal with the problem then!" But didn't want to cause a scene. I've also asked if they could maybe help DS with resilience ( have spoken to DS and done social stories at home re this ) this was met with " Yes, We've already done resilience with the class!". Any advice on how to make DS situation better?

They have a point because it's not sustainable to keep moving a child who seems to have issues with anyone they sit next to. It also sets the precedent that complaining gets a seating plan move.

It might be worth talking to DC about the difference between mildly annoying (eg you stole the lego, which I'm guessing isn't every lesson) and what's a proper issue (eg kicking and bullying).

Have you also considered that these issues with students are maybe exacerbated by the fact that DC might be feeling unsettled in their new school and the lockdown disruption? Could you talk with them about school in general and see how theure currently feeling?

@LolaSmiles thanks for the reply. I WILL talk to DS more. I was just surprised that the teachers TWICE changed the seating plan. I didn't ask for them to be moved. I just expected that they perhaps dealt with the issue instead of moving children around

Sorry, I thought you'd asked.

If the teacher doesn't see the nipping then they can't go round sanctioning as it sends the message that anyone could say anything to get someone into trouble. That's probably why theyve moved DC as it removes the source of the conflict.

Sometimes a move is reasonable if it's a case of silly bickering as it's not necessarily a behaviour incident and there's often a bit of 6 of 1 and half a dozen of the other. The Lego example would probably come under this.

I'm not sure what else has been said at home about school, but I think you've got to be mindful that DC is learning that if they come home and complain about a student then mum calls school. It would be beneficial to cover who to talk to about issues and when to ignore so that DClearns to deal with some situations themselves.