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Please can I just have a rant!

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hidinghats · 15/06/2020 09:55

I need a say some things that I don't feel I can share with colleagues or my DH right now.
I have a had a really rubbish year in teaching this year. It started when I came back from mat leave 18months ago. I thought things might improve when I went back to having my own class in Sept. In that time I interviewed for a TLR and became a head of dept.
All that happened really, is that I conveniently made myself a scapegoat and put myself in a position where whatever I did was never good enough.
My class are sparky, bright and full of energy. Something I have worked hard to harness and use within their learning but they are full of anxiety and I do have to tread lightly on some things to be careful to give them a balance. I work in a SEN setting and my class is a new year group so I worked really hard to get to know them, put in ground rules and reflect the ethos of the school.
I had a great observation where the whole class were engaged, achieving and tackling the work and extensions. This was 4 weeks into the new academic year. I was able to push where necessary (bearing in mind their anxieties) but the HT failed my observation (after acknowledging all the positive things) because he believed I wasn't stretching them enough. It was so disheartening but I took it on the chin.
I tried to take this criticism and use it to fuel their learning. These are children who are working at around 6 years old. So I moved them on to handwriting to build their confidence, develop sustained writing. It was working well (amongst their other learning.) 90% of the class could complete the handwriting the answer questions in full sentences on the text independently, developing their scanning/reading skills and their inference and understanding. One child still needed help with writing so I used a white board to help him develop sentences and documented this process with photos in their books.
I then had a book review where I was told that this was too much!
Even though they could do it, even though they were achieving, even though I knew and acknowledged that the next steps would be to develop their independent writing further.
I surmised that even though I was now pushing them, it wasn't in the way SMT wanted. I asked on several occasions for a clear cut description of what they were looking for. I only over received wishy-washy responses with no clear direction but I tried my best to take everything on board and use it to help my class.
Then the virus came and we were all sent off. I have continued to differentiate and send in appropriately matched work. I know some parents and children are struggling and I making weekly phone calls (sometimes daily) to help.
The class lists for next year have gone out and I've just spoken to a parent who needed reassurance for their child for next year.
She discussed how she had spoken to the HT who said that nothing will change next year, only your child will be pushed more.
I could tear my hair out, I really could.
I have worked so hard this year but my best has never seemed good enough.
It has affected my mental health and just makes me feel so cynical towards the whole teaching profession. I also find it upsetting that there has been an obvious agenda surrounding me that I am not party to, so I have no clear way to correct where I am going wrong.
I am pregnant again and due to go off in Oct. I know when I get back, it will either be better or I will have to look for another school. I just needed a rant.
I used to consider myself a strong teacher (with the results to prove it-even this year too!) but now I just feel utterly defeated.

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cheesecurdsandgravy · 15/06/2020 12:17

I hear you. It sounds like, for whatever reason, you don’t fit what they want. Time to move on? Their loss...

ElvisandAngel · 15/06/2020 12:46

Observations are pants and even when they go really really well the person watching will find something they do not like.

If they are not telling you exactly what they want then they probably just don’t know themselves.m and their comments say more about them than you.

This is a rubbish year anyway so try and take a deep breath and concentrate on your new baby that is on the way and your other child because this time is too specially to be spending it worrying about people at work. I know that is really hard because I worry about people at work all the time Smile

Then when you are ready, once the baby is born and you reach a point when you start thinking about work again, start applying for jobs you like. In between babies you have been promoted which is really positive and so you can take that with you and use your current role as a stepping stone to a school and role that makes you feel good about yourself and happy.

It is just not worth being in a role that does not make you feel good especially when you are trying to juggle your own small children at the same time.

hidinghats · 15/06/2020 13:38

Thank you so much for letting me have a rant and get it all out. Whilst lockdown has been happening, I've been working really hard to repair some of the damaging and spiralling thought processes I go through. I know I have to put it all to one side and focus on what's happening now.

@cheesecurdsandgravy and @ElvisandAngel I know it's time to move on. I think it was the sharp contrast and u-turn. Pre mat leave I was doing so well and I still can't pinpoint what I did wrong. I will say, I am not the only one who has felt like this at this school, so whilst I am responsible for my own actions and responses, I cannot be responsible for all of it. Small comfort.
Thank you again

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astuz · 15/06/2020 14:28

I still can't pinpoint what I did wrong I suspect that getting pregnant is what you did 'wrong'.

I work at lovely school now - people are always going off on maternity leave and the Head never bats an eyelid, but I've worked in 2 other schools now where a teacher was suddenly treated like shit when they took any time off (maternity, long-term illness etc.).

God knows why people in teaching go for promotions, if they can't see that a fairly important part of managing a school, is sorting out all the maternity leaves. It's a fairly female heavy profession after all.

I've been treated like this in a school before, and it just gets worse rather than better. I think it's not dissimilar to a controlling relationship, which means you have to just get away from the situation.

hidinghats · 15/06/2020 14:33

@astuz I absolutely hate that that is a thing and I'm sorry you went through it.
I do know through conversations with SMT that children can be a bone of contention for them (having working mums that may need tim off etc.) But I have been careful to structure my homelife so that it doesn't pile over into work and my DH does weekday childcare and nursery drop offs etc.
I do feel I need to move to a different school for a fresh start and a fresh pair of eyes.

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astuz · 15/06/2020 14:40

@hidinghats the main thing to remember is that it's not you, it's them, and they're just horrible people basically (and poor managers). I can tell from your post that you know deep down you are good teacher, and everything you're doing sounds great. The SLT are just gaslighting you to try to make you question yourself, and sap your confidence - it's a shitty thing to do.

MrsZola · 15/06/2020 22:02

Yep, time to move on. Definitely them not you.
I had a very similar experience - I lost count of the times I asked for clarification and was fobbed off with wishy washy answers.
I eventually went off for 6 months ( depression, after 30 years and considered myself a strong teacher) and resigned with no job to go to.
Get out on your terms. I have since worked in 2 lovely schools. Not all SLT are twats.

heartonastring · 16/06/2020 06:58

It really gets to me that this is even a thing. All I did was have a baby and and all if a sudden my face doesn't fit. There are other women I work with who also want children. Will the same thing happen to them?
I'm still wfh right now so that lessens some of the the pressure I had been dealing with. On the occasions it got bad, I did contact the union but was only ever suggested to ask for a sick note to help "fix" the problem.
I'm taking steps now to build my mental health back up as I can feel I'm slipping again.

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