Not sure if should of posted this in bullying or education but was looking for a teachers response.
Dd (5) is in reception, had a really good year so far, settled in well & made some lovely little friends. A new boy came into their class after the Easter holidays, DD is one of these children that comes home & recounts the entire day so I know from what she says that he's naughty, often goes in timeout or gets sent to the sit in the classroom of the next year group up.
There's been a couple of instances now where she has said that this boy has touched her, first time she said he tripped her up and last week he had nipped her on the arm. I let these go as thought the trip could of been an accident & the nip I just told her to tell the teacher if it happened again.
DM picked her up yesterday & as they were walking over the playground DD told DM that this boy had punched her on the shoulder. They went back for mum to speak to the teacher & DD said that's him & pointed to the boy who was still at the gate with teacher & his mum. DM said to the teacher who replied 'yes she was just going to speak to his mum about it now' now DM is very protective & also volatile so she'd said something along the lines of 'yes I suggest you do because it will better coming from you than me'.
Now my concern here is that teacher had let DD come out to DM without mentioning this incident, if DD hadn't told her I wonder if it would of been mentioned at all?
Teacher must of then been to the office & got DM's contact details because she then rang her to assure her she had given the boy a 'stern talking to' but she would speak to me in the morning (today).
I don't really know where to go from here. This has been 3 incidents that I know of, if the teacher assures me that she is aware of the situation & is being vigilant to get it nipped in the bud then fair enough going forward but I do want to know if there is a procedure or anything in place for recording incidents as I'm worried that if DD wasn't so open with talking about her day we wouldn't know about this happening.