Was my advice correct?
Upsidedownfrown · 22/12/2018 10:11
I'll be vague so this isn't too identifying but hopefully you'll get the idea.
I'm support staff in a primary school. I have a new (ish) member of staff who generally works with large groups of children but once a week is 1-1 for just an hour with one particular child. Yesterday she told me she'd bought this child a Christmas gift. She wasn't gifting any other children in the school. I advised her that really, she should be completely impartial and I didn't think it was a good idea to gift just one child as imo that's blatant favouritism although it was a lovely gesture. I did tell her to check with SLT though.
I don't know if she did check with SLT but I saw she took the gift home.
Was I wrong to say that? It made me a bit uneasy but now I'm second guessing myself. They haven't been doing this hour per week for very long and she seems a little fixated on this child.
Upsidedownfrown · 22/12/2018 10:13
Argh meant to post this in staffroom. Have asked for it to be moved
JoanneMumsnet · 22/12/2018 10:17
Moving it over for you now, OP.
icklekid · 22/12/2018 10:23
Yes I think that is sensible advice.
Bobbiepin · 22/12/2018 10:25
Could easily be interpreted as grooming. Your advice was correct.
Upsidedownfrown · 22/12/2018 10:29
Thank you both. I don't normally second guess myself so not sure what's different this time! Think she might need a gentle chat next term! That's just what I needed to hear. I can switch off from work brain now. Happy holidays!
Pud2 · 22/12/2018 12:41
spaghettipeppers · 22/12/2018 13:02
You were right. I wouldn't be concerned about grooming but favouritism and over-attachment.
Bobbiepin · 22/12/2018 21:59
Giving gifts to individual young people is a known tactic to increase favour as a part of grooming. I'm not accusing your colleague of grooming but someone could easily misinterpret.
Cauliflowersqueeze · 26/12/2018 00:27
Very good advice. Yes re: grooming.
happystory · 26/12/2018 09:09
I'm sure your colleague just meant to do a nice thing, but she's a bit naive, and yes your advice was correct.
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