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Does your child attend the school you teach at?

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Yumyumbananas · 04/10/2018 23:24

I work at a one form entry primary school. Would it be a great or awful idea to send my child there (from Reception)?

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BackforGood · 05/10/2018 00:38

Mine didn't.
I think know it creates difficulties.
I still resent the fact my Mum taught at the junior school I went to. That was 3 form entry and she never taught any of us, but it just created problems.
OTOH, it is convenient in terms of knowing you'll be getting the same holidays, but it makes life difficult for the dc.

jmh740 · 05/10/2018 00:44

I'm a ta at my child's school, I've never worked in the same class I wouldn't want to I think they need some time away from their parents.

mynameisnotmichaelcaine · 05/10/2018 06:32

I do, but my school is a 12 form entry secondary. I wouldn't work in a school where I would have to teach them.

topcat2014 · 05/10/2018 06:57

Dsis teaches at the primary school where all 3 dc are at. Seems to work fine for them all, but tends not to teach their classes if possible.

youarenotkiddingme · 05/10/2018 07:07

I went to the school my mum taught at. Didn't cause me any issues.

PenguinSaidEverything · 05/10/2018 07:09

I started a similar thread about a week ago! Worth looking at the responses there. FWIW I’ve weighed it up and we’re going to go for it.

brisklady · 05/10/2018 07:11

IME it's not teaching your own kids that's the problem. It's the relationship with other parents (particularly if there's a problem with their child or others in the class), and the fact that people will constantly try to get information out of you so you never feel off duty. I left a school for exactly this reason., and would strongly counsel against it.

brisklady · 05/10/2018 07:20

Just seen the other thread. To clarify, I had no problem when it came to my own kids and other teachers etc, and my kids loved me being there - it was all about other parents.

glamorousgrandmother · 05/10/2018 07:22

My daughter was at the same school as me all through primary, it was never a problem although I never taught the class she was in.

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Yumyumbananas · 05/10/2018 08:20

I doubt I would have to teach my child. We move year groups a lot. I wouldn’t have a problem with staff, I don’t think. Yes, other parents could be an issue! I suppose I would never get to just be a “school mum”.
On the other hand, there wouldn’t be the issue of having to battle through traffic to get to the childcare before it closes and I would get to see all of the plays etc.

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glamorousgrandmother · 05/10/2018 08:43

It could have been awkward having her friends come to play although actually it wasn't although that was in the days before all the Safeguarding rules. Any disadvantages were outweighed by not having to pay for before and after school care. She did have to spend a lot of time hanging about in my classroom, although not as long in those days (80s) as now and, guess what, she ended up becoming a teacher too.

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Yumyumbananas · 05/10/2018 17:56

Those of you who have done it - was/is the school near home? My child wouldn’t have any friends from nearby to home attending my school.

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storynanny · 05/10/2018 18:09

I taught at our local infant school for years, the same one that my 3 children and all their friends attended. It was never a problem as it was 2 form entry and therefore were never in my class.
I would not have wanted to be in the same school though if they were older than about 7.

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Yumyumbananas · 05/10/2018 18:11

Storynanny - I think I’m likely to move schools (me move, not my child) within a couple of years for career reasons anyway. But that means my new commute will have to be based on the location of my current school rather than home. :-/

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youarenotkiddingme · 05/10/2018 21:47

My mum even taught my class on supply a few times.

Luckily she's great and everyone loves her so it did my cred a great deal of good!

Matildasmum13 · 06/10/2018 21:22

I moved my twins to my junior school once they had got to Year 4 (as I taught Year 3) Logstically the best thing I could have done. They were happier as no breakfast/ afterschool clubs or being pushed from pillar to post. I saw all of their assemblies/ sports days etc. Obs everyone knew they were my kids, but luckily they did not suffer as I was well liked there.
I did take them away from their catchment and current friends to do this, but they quickly made knew friends and the quality of education and life was better for them.
They did say it was weird when I led assemblies to start with!
However I think it worked because I had strict rules, they were not allowed to call me mum at school, if there was a problem they didnt ever come to me at school and I never let them know anything-staff leaving, which class they would be in, pregnancies etc, they never got a heads up. They always heard everything when others in their class did. I've seen other staff children hang off their parents and really struggle so I think you have to instill that at school you are a teacher and not mummy.
Also you have to be prepared to stay at that school for the duration of your child's time there.

sar302 · 06/10/2018 21:39

My sister and I went to school where my mum taught. But she never actually taught us IYSWIM. Apart from occasionally calling her mummy, instead of Mrs X, there were no real issues! Meant we had to behave though
I think it's fine as long as you don't teach them, but with one form entry would you be able to avoid that..?

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Yumyumbananas · 07/10/2018 18:47

I know the head would move me around so I don’t have to teach my child so that’s not an issue. We move year groups a lot.

My school is better in terms of results and intake than the schools where we live. DC wouldn’t necessarily get into the main secondary choice though but we would consider moving closer at that point. DC would go to on-site childcare so I wouldn’t have to worry about the before or after school commute.

BUT I think I will move schools within 2-3 years. DC would stay there but DH works nearby so he could do drop off and pick up if my new school isn’t close enough.

It’s a hard decision to make!

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