This is my 1st post (but long time reader) so apologies if this is in the wrong place or worded incorrectly. But here goes...
Something happened recently that made me feel uncomfortable, but I'm not sure If it is a simple case of a differing parental judgment or if it should be mentioned to the person in question or school.
Basically my dds best friend has been invited for a tea, they have been been friends since the start of school and are now 9. The mum who i am loosely friendly with responded with yes but she is on nights and her child was due to sleep over at another child's house.
The other child in question is a 11 year old boy who lives with his father. My friend (the mum) is friendly with this dad but as far as I'm aware the children are not friends and the child's does not know this family at all.
Another issue is the father and son had a huge safeguarding issue at home recently. My friend knows all about this and told me (i also know because I'm a TA at the school). The boy who has autism and struggles to communicate bravely disclosed to the headteacher at school of serious physical abuse in his household. Not by his dad (although he was in the house) but by the dads girlfriend, and her daughter who have been living with them. The abuse was shocking and awful, and the dad did the right thing by removing them from the house in order to keep his son. The dad himself suffers from mental illness and is unable to take care of himself and his son at times ( the boy comes to school without food and without clean clothes). Basically the house is chaotic and there have been concerns about the welfare of this child and social service involvement before this big issue. All of which my friend seems to know about before I even find out from school.
Should I be concerned that the mum thinks is appropriate to leave her 9 year daughter to sleep over at this house alone. Her daughter is a nervous and quiet child and I worry about her.
I have already offered for her to sleep at our house instead. But is that all I should do?