Just wondering how it works at other schools and why people seem pissed off. At our school (been there years, only been Hod since Sept) we used to be paid for them and now are not. As a result, nothing is said by SLT, but obviously a lot of people still offer them.
This year people start asking me whether I would want them in for sessions. This made me feel a little 
because obviously it's not for me to say I expect people to give up a day (or more) of their holiday. I absolutely do not expect it but it felt like people were leaving it to me to direct them, or not. Also a couple of teachers said they were away for the week, so that made it worse as I would have had to say if you're not away you need to come in, which I obviously had no intention of doing.
I said that I'd offer a session but that I certainly didn't expect others in - our school doesn't get a great turn-out for these things anyway, so one of us was probably always going to be enough anyway. But still, for reasons I don't get, people kept mentioning it and asking what I wanted, verifying I didn't want them in etc.
Then a part-time member of the team announced that she would come in with me. I said great but there's really no need, but she was insistent. This then prompted others to ask me even more, and I repeated what I had said. It seems people felt guilty (totally unnecessarily) for this woman coming in when they weren't, but not guilty enough to just come in, which they shouldn't have to, but continued to put it onto me to tell them whether to come or not. I repeated there was no need.
The day was yesterday, and in the morning I received a couple of texts from people saying they weren't coming - I hadn't though they were, but fine. The part-time woman came, but spent most of the time we were together complaining about everyone who hadn't come, complaining about her childcare she'd had to pay for to come, and explaining how all her family had asked why she was doing it and how she'd told them it was for me and not the school 
. It was like a back-handed compliment, but I don't understand where it came from. I swear I didn't ask her to do this and kept telling her not to. I'm mortified if she has incurred costs because I've given her the impression she had to come in, but I'm sure I didn't.
I know this is the most boring pile of shit anyone's ever written, but if anyone has any advice as to how I could avoid this bad feeling next year, I would be so, so grateful.