Didn’t get internal job. Advice for tomorrow

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Didn’t get internal promotion. That was Friday. Back to work tomorrow. Dreading it don’t know why. Was me and one other so was always gonna be this way. I know I have to go in head held high but dreading it

Oh, situations like that always suck. I feel for you op.
You've got the right attitude, go in with your head held high. Will you be able to ask for some feedback? That might help to put your mind at rest.
Best of luck :)

Ive been in this position before on both sides. I've also been a successful external candidate and had to join a team with the unsuccessful internal candidate. My advice is be positive and gracious. Smile and nod when people talk to you about it but don't get drawn into lots of discussion. Don't do anything unprofessional like rant or cry. If you do need to let off steam do so with an understanding friend/DH outside of work. I think what's key is how you react to a knock like this, and it's all a learning process. It's ok to feel sad about it tho because it's hard. 💐

You may have gained a notch up for the next promotion? Agree. Act gracious. Don't think for a second it was personal.

I think you need to just sensibly consider that everyone in that office has not got a job at some point. It is just part of adult life and there was only 1, as you say that someone else got instead. I know it's disappointing and slightly humiliating but everyone over about 21 will have experienced similar.

Yea I know you’re all right. There’s been a few jobs recently and many in the office have missed out. The other person was more experienced and doing a bit of the job anyway so I knew that the odds were not in my favour.

Still dreading it! Need to be more resilient

FWIW, I just got a job that an internal candidate applied for, and we are working closely together. I have 10 years more experience than her, so there’s no shame in me having got the position. I have big respect for her having been so friendly, welcome and constructive towards me. I’m activeky looking out for opportunities for her to develop her skills so she can broaden her CV and (sadly) move on.

Sorry you missed out. It's hard being resilient. Remember you need to be resilient at work, but you can rant to MN or outsiders.

Still dreading it! Need to be more resilient

You are being resilient, you are planning to go to work tomorrow and venting on here to help you keep it in perspective. It's disappointing and hard to deal with when you have to face everyone.

I admire your attitude. It speaks volumes when an unsuccessful candidate makes a difficult atmosphere at work. It often highlights exactly why they were unsuccessful. You will be watched, even subconsciously, in the next few weeks, and you will be noted for your positive attitude.

Thanks for that Lougle although I’ll admit my attitude was crap on fri (not at work , bitching to friends etc). I’ve decided to start applying elsewhere as I don’t think there’s anyway to go now internally, but I’m hoping that doesn’t make me look bitter. And obviously we’ll most likely I won’t be applying for anything in the next week as half term approaches

I was in your position. I tried so hard to keep my head up but the successful candidate made my life so hard by constantly giving me the crap stuff she didn't want to do in the guise of growing my CV. Eventually I moved into a different school in the position I had missed out on and haven't looked back. I hope you have a better experience, but don't think it's just you if it doesn't work out. It needs to be a two way street between you and the other candidate.

Applying for something else can be exactly the right thing to do. That doesn't say anything of bitterness or disgruntlement. Neither does complaining to friends of disappointment - it's natural! But, bringing that into your school, your team and, especially if you are SLT, your downstream team, is hugely unsettling for the well-being of the school, the staff and ultimately, the students. No teacher should be that person, and it's so sad when they are.

It's happened in my workplace (not to me) and we all respected the unsuccessful candidate so much because she held her head up high, was gracious in defeat. It'll be tough for the first ten minutes/coffee break but then it'll be fine

I had similar happen to me, I went for a job in a different team (in a small organisation of about 20 people) and someone external got it. I was gutted and then had to work with the new person and she didn't know I'd gone for that job.
Just go in and be your normal self. While I was upset I didn't get the job i didn't want it to spoil friendships at work.

It happened in my place of work (nursing). 3 of us went for 2 internal posts. The chap that wasn't successful went on to get an amazing external job soon after and left with a smile. He was very graceful and dignified in not getting the post as well.

It's never nice to be the unsuccessful candidate but use the interview experience to your advantage and apply for other roles. Hold your head up high and know that the interview experience will benefit you.

Some great advice here.

Along with the above I would make sure I wear something that makes me look and feel great.

Hope it went okay today. I’ve been where you are too - you’ve done the first day and there’s a role out there somewhere with your name on it!

Thanks all. Ran into other candidate on the way to the office, said well done. A couple of people said commiserations most ignored. Onwards and upwards! 😬