Can anyone who works in a private school pref recruiting help.

[Cupofteaandatwirl]

No idea if anyone would be able to help with this but here goes
I don't work in the private sector. A job has come up in a private school that I want to apply for and it is well suited to me.
I dont want to go into the backstory, its long and complicated. My OH has a criminal conviction (last year) and the offence was sexual (not children).
I declared it to my workplace. I had a union rep in with me. My workplace kept me on and my union rep told me I was very lucky that they hadn't dismissed me outright.

My workplace said they wouldn't mention this in a reference if I applied for another job. But they and the union rep said I should declare if I applied to another school.

Would a private school even look at me or am I wasting my time? I am so frustrated that it's affecting me even though I haven't done anything wrong.
I don't really want to bring it all back up again and I don't want to go through the stress of applying if they won't even look at me. I don't know whether I should just wait it out a few more years. It's just that the job is potentially a good move for me.

Not at all, that's the sort of experience that I was interested in hearing about and confirms my fears.
I know I am very fortunate to work somewhere that recognises my value as a teacher and is prepared to accept me regardless of what has happened. I am well established there and recognise that it would be difficult for another establishment to do that when they don't know me

You would have to declare it, many independent schools teach from 2-18 so technically, while disqualification by association only applies to those working with under 8yr olds you will still be in contact with the younger pupils. Everyone at the school where I work completes the form annually, from dinner ladies to cleaning staff.

My main concern would be your attitude to safeguarding, remaining in a relationship with someone who you know has committed a serious sexual offence. Your partners offence would not automatically exclude your application but I daresay that even if you were the best candidate, the amount of risk assessing and bad publicity this could bring to the school would not make it an application that would be followed up.

The school is being lax if they allow anyone who doesn’t directly work with the EYFS to fill out that section of the form. They are not meant to ask if you don’t take part in activity within the early years.

It has no reflection on your competency as a teacher. It is a safeguarding issue. I worked somewhere where an admin worker was employed, then her reference came back with concerns over her partner. She was not employed due to fears he could use her to groom children.