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Resignation feelings

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goldenlilliesdaffodillies · 15/07/2017 16:57

I have just resigned from a teaching post after many years being at the school. There have been massive changes at the school (basically everything!). Although I have a new job which I'm looking forward to, I feel extremely sad about leaving this one. Most of the staff employed by the old head have gone. It's a very different place. It's time to move on.

I thought I would feel relieved and happy as the last year as been very challenging- but I just feel an overwhelming sadness and quite tearful about it all. Is this normal? Please tell me this feeling will pass?!

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EvilTwins · 15/07/2017 17:00

I'm leaving a school I've been at for 13 years. It's totally my choice and I am leaving to do something I'm really excited about but I'm totally up and down about going. My current school is a chaotic mess - in special measures, on our 6th temporary HT since Easter of 2014 and staff morale is rock bottom, so I ought to be feeling relieved and be desperate to get out of the door, but I'm all over the place emotionally.

So I reckon what you're feeling is totally normal.

FrogsLegs31 · 15/07/2017 17:02

I cried on an off at the drop of a hat yesterday for some similar reasons.

For me I think it was mainly about the students. Seeing them sad that I was leaving and knowing I wouldn't see them again. It's not like the adult people you have connected with in life who you can visit and keep in touch with.

HelloPossums · 15/07/2017 17:05

Hi OP - so sorry to hear about how you feel

I had a sort of similar situation after resigning from a school, although in my case, I'd resigned from a teacher training course at the school, so I hadn't been there for a long time at all. I felt very down and kind of lost, and am still trying to get myself back into gear (I resigned late last year).

Firstly, huge congratulations on your new job! And it's great to hear that you're looking forward to it too. That's really positive, and you should feel really proud :)

It is totally understandable that you'd be feeling upset after giving so many years of service to a school and then, as you say, seeing basically everything change at the school from what you were used to.

Between now and the start of your new job, it might be nice to focus on yourself completely and really think about doing things that you would really enjoy - especially things that you maybe haven't had time to do vecause you've been so busy over the last few years with work.

Hope you feel better soon, and I hope this helps

(Feel free to PM me )

YogiYoni · 15/07/2017 21:41

I'm leaving a lovely school next week too. Like you, I'm looking forward to my new job, but feeling really quite sad about leaving this one. I've been very teary over the last week or so and I'm not quite sure how I'm going to get through this week.

I love @HelloPossums advice about allowing yourself to have a proper break over the summer. I'm going to try to follow that too!

toomuchicecream · 15/07/2017 21:44

I think I'm coping with it by pretending I'm not leaving! I'm going in during the first week of the holidays to help sort the reading scheme.

My new job is scarily different with lots of unknowns, but a very exciting opportunity. I've spent several days with the new school this half term and everyone is very welcoming so there's nothing really to be worried about. But I love my current school and didn't ever intend to leave...

PurpleAlerts · 15/07/2017 21:54

I left a school after 25 years and sobbed all the way home.
I never thought I would leave and always claimed I would be carried out of there in my coffin. A control freak of a head ( who was also blindingly incompetent) just decimated the place. Pissed of all the good teachers and didn't deal with the bad. It was a lovely school and she ruined it.

I was heart- broken.

But the school I moved to was a breath of fresh air. Leant more in the first 6 months than I had in the past ten years at the old school. It was without doubt the best thing for my career. Two years later I applied for and was offered a specialist job in education which I just love. I would never have done this if I had stayed at the old school. It was a scary transition but absolutely the right thing for me.

ninnypoo · 15/07/2017 22:34

I'm leaving an absolutely lovely school this year. Only been there 2 years but it's my first school and feels so special to me. I'm also very aware of how it's a very 'good' school in terms of wellbeing, morale, SLT etc. New school is very exciting but so different in so many ways it'll feel like starting all over again and I'm scared I'll hate it.

I keep getting a bit teary at the thought of not being there. It doesn't help that my replacement has started moving her stuff in and doing the order for Sept in the corner of the room while I teach. I want to scream I'M STILL HERE! IT'S NOT YOUR CLASSROOM YET

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goldenlilliesdaffodillies · 16/07/2017 16:12

It sounds like what I am feeling is normal then. Thanks for the lovely words. Hopefully this feeling will pass!

PurpleAlerts- my experience is very similar to yours. There are very few of us left who joined under the old Head teacher. Everyone left is terrified for their jobs and afraid to speak out.

I am looking forward to my new job though. Onwards and upwards.

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