Great post, @vera99 I agree. I just think MM hit the RF like a whirlwind, and the old courtiers and aides could just not cope with her as a force. So what, she wore dark nail varnish, so what she sent emails at 5am, so what she opened a car door... I think the whole institution was just not ready for even minor changes. They didn't embrace her as different. She wasn't pliable like Diana or Kate, she had made her own money, she had always been in to social causes and she wanted to make a difference. I put blame for this on MM also... too much too fast, but the whole archaic institution moves at a snails pace and just does not do change and hasn't for decades.
I do think that if MM had come along after the Queen died, it might have been a whole different story. But K&W had to be on board with that, and I just don't think they were, and might never have been. I imagine they both treated Meghan with suspicion... american, actress, divorced, bi racial and full on. I know a lot of Americans and they really can be a different kettle of fish (and I don't mean that rudely, I love lots about them)
What a force the 4 of them could have been. The press fuelled any cracks, the RF allowed that to happen because they honestly thought she would give up all of this, go back to the US without Harry, and we would all forget the whole unsavoury incident. But no.
Just such a shame and such a lost opportunity for a modernising of the monarchy. If only the RF had spoken out like King Harald of Norway . He spoke to the whole population in very strong terms condemning the racism towards his black son in law by the press and social media. If the Queen had done that, I think the ridiculous and nasty headlines would've dwindled because everyone listened to the Queen! But the RF stuck their heads in the sand and hoped it would all go away. Well it did, and Harry went too!
The article and King Harald's statement is really worth a read. How different the handling of a difficult situation to our monarchy.
royalcentral.co.uk/europe/norway/king-harald-condemns-racism-towards-future-son-in-law-durek-verrett-183277/