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NameChangeGin · 14/01/2023 22:18

I was just reflecting today, that while I adore my husband completely, I am also safe in the knowledge that if anything were to happen and we were to split (and I doubt that as he's my soul mate and we've been together nearly 20 years and I can't see that ending... But hypothetically..)...then I would have somewhere to go, friends to turn to, a family who would support me, and a job which would be my crutch.

I wonder how alone Harry must feel. Knowing he has no country to call home now, no family to support him (given he's burned his bridges), dwindling friendships and no dependable job, what has he got if megs were to leave? I'm sure this thought, even unconsciously, must be leading him to desperation and clinging on so tightly to her. She and his kids are literally it. That's everything.

I don't much like H&M and can't stand the way they've treated their family, or the UK for that matter. But I do feel for harry. How alone he is :(

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SugarCookieMonster · 14/01/2023 22:36

I understand what you’re saying, it is sad. But it’s a bed of his own making.

They jumped the gun on leaving the Royal family. He’d spoken with the Queen about a working royals half in, half out situation which she refused. I think people forget that the decision for them to leave the UK and RF was made after this event. That seemed to be the turning point as they released their statement (that hadn’t been seen by the palace) leaving the RF shortly after. Although it’s since been shown in a somewhat different light that they left solely due to the press.

Harry has used every opportunity to burn his bridges. After publishing private text messages, dredging up old petty disputes with his brother and father, accusations of racism, I don’t see how he could have expected anything else.

I wonder how many of their A list celeb friends are still around. The George Clooney‘s of the world are notoriously private and avoid any focus on their private lives. Can’t imagine they’ll be willing to risk socialising with a couple who write tell all books.

Whoever is supporting and guiding him, the team he’s created around him are doing an awful job of looking after his personal life. The book and TV appearances may be raking in cash, but at what cost to him and his familial relationships?

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NameChangeGin · 14/01/2023 22:52

I agree with you sugarcookie, and I'm no fan, but I do just think it is such a lonely place he's got himself into. He needs Meghan, because without her he has nothing, which is so so unhealthy. His whole self worth is currently dependent on ber. If the relationship does start to get unstuck he will need to cling on so desperately, and likely will try and cling on so much that his mental health is likely to take more of a dip and the relationship, if it does end, will really not end well at all :(

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EpicChaos · 15/01/2023 04:13

Oh dear, how sad, what a shame!
I couldn't give a rats, he deserves no better!

PourOnTheHeat · 15/01/2023 05:41

Sometimes when your family are rubbish/dysfunctional/abusive/emotionallly unavailable, it’s better to be without them. People really fail to get that. He has a home here so that part is just stupid but people can make another country their home anyway.

I have no contact with a lot of my family and live in a different country now but my life is great. You don’t know if he has friends or not, I would imagine he does, and I’m sure he’ll always find ‘work’. 😅

I think you sound a bit mad. 😬

Last I heard, my mum was telling people I’d be alone and realise my ‘mistakes’. She’s completely deluded just like people who say things about Harry’s life. I have a whole life, my partner, our children, friends, animals, volunteer work. I go out, I have holidays. I’ve built a life without them but people prefer to imagine and make up stuff. I find it bizarre in my case and in Harry’s.

PourOnTheHeat · 15/01/2023 05:46

To add,

Importantly, even if I ever was left ‘alone’, that wild be preferable to having my ‘family’ back in my life when they have shown no regret for their behaviour. At this point, possibly unlike Harry, I wouldn’t speak to my family even if they talked openly, listened and changed.

BadgerB · 15/01/2023 06:41

EpicChaos · Today 04:13
Oh dear, how sad, what a shame!
I couldn't give a rats, he deserves no better!

Hear! hear!
And his family would pick him up, regardless of what he has done....

MonsoonMadness · 15/01/2023 07:02

It occurs to me that they can’t afford to split up. If they are struggling to pay for security etc now, what will happen if there are two households to run and two lots of security? It won’t be feasible. They are chained together, come what May.

Butteredtoast55 · 15/01/2023 10:11

I'm no fan of his, but he might genuinely consider the US to be his home now, and he would presumably want to be near his children. He's done himself many, many disservices, but proudly discussing his own behaviours and demonstrating so clearly that he is not dealing well with his emotions and mental health issues would support Meghan having custody of the children should it ever come to that. I hope it doesn't.
I also think his family would reach out to him and offer a role within the royal family. Whether he accepted and took it would speak volumes about his desperation or hypocrisy though.

purpledalmation · 15/01/2023 10:27

He has millions of dollars in fees from Netflix etc and similar from inheritances so he won't be poor. He says he feels at home in America and says he loves his wife and family. How secure all that is is down to him. I don't think he can have many friends in LA, more hangers on and sycophants. His choice.

babsanderson · 15/01/2023 18:58

Harry has friends and a close relationship with his cousin. For many people whose parents have died and have no siblings, this is a perfectly normal state of affairs.

StarInTheHeavens · 15/01/2023 19:04

I agree OP, I worry about this too. When the marriage breaks down what will he do?

babsanderson · 15/01/2023 19:08

When??
How ghoulish.

JoyPeaceHealth · 15/01/2023 19:08

I'm single and have been for years (15) give or take the odd fling, well one relationship of two years, but basically single. I feel better off for not plodding along in a relationship. If you're plodding along in a relationship and it ends, it can be quite de-railing. I'm estranged from my family of origin too so all I have is my job, my teens and a few friends, but I feel better off emotionally than poor H

JoyPeaceHealth · 15/01/2023 19:11

Although if I had 16 million, I'd stay in a nice hotel in the centre of town or over looking a river. I'd be ok.

lmnabc · 15/01/2023 19:17

He's likely to make himself even more alone when he reveals all in the next book he plans. All totally self inflicted.

keepareaclean · 15/01/2023 19:19

He isn't the only one, at least he won't need to rely on foodbabks whilst waiting for his UC claim to be processed.

FictionalCharacter · 15/01/2023 19:20

All we know is what he's written and what's appeared in the media. We don't really know what friends and support he has, and what his family have said. I don't believe for a second that his father has cut him off. It's reported that he gets on well with his cousins and that could well be true. He has money, which can buy you a lot of help and comforts.
If my DH left me I'd have a lot less support around me than Harry has. For a start nearly all my relatives are dead! He has a huge extended family and I really don't believe they'd all abandon him.

Quveas · 15/01/2023 19:24

He has no friends, no family and is running out of money.... You know him well then? As for no country, have you seen the UK recently? Half the country would get out if they could given the dire straights its in! But of course this whole pointless soap opera is nicely burying the important stuff that actually matters.

ArseInTheDogBowl · 15/01/2023 19:24

babsanderson · 15/01/2023 18:58

Harry has friends and a close relationship with his cousin. For many people whose parents have died and have no siblings, this is a perfectly normal state of affairs.

Which cousin, Eugenie? Wonder how she feels after his comments about the matron at Ludgrove.

walkinthewoodstoday · 15/01/2023 19:28

If it all got tits up he will be back as a recluse in Notts Cottage with a totally different perspective

pelargoniums · 15/01/2023 19:29

On the other hand… they might not split, he’ll probably inherit something from the Queen and Prince Philip, eventually something from Charles; friends of his appeared in the Netflix show so he’s not entirely isolated; none of us actually know who his friends are and social circle is in California and he may be supported and happy; and this whole “alone without the royals” narrative is pure conjecture.

Greyhave · 15/01/2023 19:34

If he was on mumsnet anonymously asking what to do about his cheating father, his bereavement, his father then marrying the affair partner and a brother who attacked him there would be loads of comments about how toxic his family are and how he should put up boundaries or cut them loose 🤣

Summersolargirl · 15/01/2023 19:35

If they split the royal family will take him back harry knows this .

JoyPeaceHealth · 15/01/2023 19:36

ArseInTheDogBowl · 15/01/2023 19:24

Which cousin, Eugenie? Wonder how she feels after his comments about the matron at Ludgrove.

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I don't get it, why would Eugenie be upset about his comments about the matron at ludgrove?

MonsoonMadness · 15/01/2023 19:50

She has a spinal problem for which she’s had surgery.

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