@NearlyMidnight I had, and have no intention of "lecturing" anyone.
However, I do feel that you are accusing me of doing something that by the very action of your accusation you are doing to me.
I am well aware that I have no knowledge of what other posters on here have experienced in their lives, anymore than you do about me.
I am in my 60's now, and have suffered from different levels of depression since I was a teenager. Apart from a few years in my 30's I have been on antidepressants for about 50 years. I have had my stomach pumped once, self-harmed a lot, and seen more mental health doctors, nurses, psycologists, counsellors etc than I can count, I gave up with them years ago, as there was only one psychiatrist, and one senior mental health nurse, that I have had personal experience with, who were any good at all, and they were actually excellent - but a very long time ago, and in a different part of the country.
My stress levels are often off the board, and I have Diazepam to take when it gets bad enough that I either have to cut myself - underneath my breasts, or on the top of my thighs, so no-one knows what I am doing - or I take one or two, 5mg tablets of Diazepam.
As far as I know, I never had "real" PND after the birth of my children, but I did struggle, particularly with the first. I am many years past my peri, and then actual menopause, and oh yes, I had symptoms, but thankfully they were no-where near as bad as a lot of the horror stories I have heard about.
As for my children, one has a ND condition, and another one suffers from Schizophrenia, and refuses to take any medication for it. He has attempted suicide twice to my knowledge - afterwards, he is an adult and didn't live anywhere near me at that point - While he was still a teenager, and therefore still lived at home, he twice threatened to kill himself, on neither occassion were the mental health team any good whatsoever. A mental health nurse saw him the first time in a room just off A & E, and just said they couldn't do anything to help him, this was before the Schizophrenia diagnosis. So I asked him - the MH Nurse - what about if my son left the hospital and walked straight under a double decker bus, the MHN literally said "that would be tough"! I have many horror stories to do with the NHS over the years (even though I worked for them myself at one time), I have both witnessed, and been the subject of, many awful scenarios myself.
One of my parents, my Dad, was literally, or seemed to be, a lunatic, which I know is an antiquated term, that is not medically acknowledged, but he really did go - slightly - insane when the moon was full. I presume that the moon can affect the brain in the same way that it affects the tides, and our periods. Maybe it works by affecting the liquids in some peoples brains whenever it is in a particular phase, it certainly always seemed to occur when the moon was full, or waxing or waning close to the full-moon stage, with my father. Sadly my dearest (and the best) Mum got a dementia in her old age.
But I don't think that any of my experiences with mental illnesses (or the temporary job I had in a home for people with mental health illnesses) has made me an expert on any mental health issues. Imo it takes many, many years, of both study and experience, to become anywhere near knowledgeable enough to diagnose and treat mental health problems. The one brilliant psychiatrist that I had in my 30's, actually refused to give me tablets at that point, because he thought (and I agreed) that it was very understandable for me to be depressed and suicidal at that particular time in my life. He continued to see me weekly until we had had enough deep discussions that he knew I was then strong enough to cope with a lot more of lifes BS, that life seems to like throwing our way!
You finish by saying that Harry (just) wants to make lots of money, but not help. Yet you have admitted yourself that the help is often not there, but contrary to your belief, and especially when it comes to mental health care, having lots of money to throw at a situation does not mean that the quality will be any better. I think that anymore that PPs on here think I can know that Harry is suffering very badly from mental health illness, you - and they - can't know that he isn't. Your very last sentence is:
"But as far as I know he hasn't".
You don't know and I don't know, but my own years of personal experience, and my own years of observations and copious amounts of reading, and yes my own intuition as well, have led me to believe that I do recognise that Harry is seriously mentally unwell. I am also aware that he might not have even been able to admit to himself just how bad it actually is.
But yes I could be wrong, but I would rather be wrong my way, than yours.