Feeling so alone

[Simba80]

I have four amazing children two from a previous relationship and two from my current. My eldest from my previous relationship is 16 and has never got on with my new partner. They really clash and are horrible to each other. It came to a head about two months ago and my son moved out. He now wants to come home and make ago of things with my partner but my partner is having none of if and says he will never live under our roof again. I feel totally stuck in the middle, I am so down and depressed Ive actually thought about just disappearing but I can't leave my other children. My son has also been diagnosed with mental health issues but I feel my partner has not helped matters. They are both quite nasty to me and each of them says I need to choice who I want. I'm stuck and so down I don't know where to turn .

hand hold. what exactly happened between them? has DC been staying with their dad and now wants to move back with you?

My son had a melt down which he has quite often, my partner restraint him and marked him. My son then reported him to the police and he was arrested for child abuse. My son stayed with a friend and his dad every other week as his dad lives 100miles away and my son dosent want to move away from his life and friends up here.

The charges against my partner were all dropped

Your DP is out of order expecting you to choose him over your ds. He needs to understand the damage not giving your ds another chance will do to the family, to your ds and to you. It's not just about your DP and what he wants. Your children are also being kept from their brother. Is that good for them? I don't think so. Your ds won't get better without the family's support. Your ds also needs to understand it is important for his siblings that he and your DP make an effort to be as civil as possible. Your ds is still a child and needs your support. If your DP can't accept that then he's going to mess up the family one way or another.

My cousin and his dads new wife didn’t get on
He left home, lived in shelters, mental health condition for a lot worse. 10 years later he committed suicide.
I always think it was down to lack of love between his dad and his new wife.

He was like my little brother. His mum passed away from cancer when he was about 10.

You need to sort it out but mental health isn’t like a broken arm. It needs support and love.