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Heartbroken after losing our young cat so suddenly at home - warning: slightly graphic description of death.

12 replies

Owenspannas · 05/07/2026 15:23

I’m heartbroken.

My beautiful boy Barney passed away yesterday evening. We had been out for the day and when we got home he was sat in his litter box which seemed a bit odd however he was alert and awake. We took him out and it became apparent he couldn’t walk properly as his paws were skidding on the floor. We called the emergency vets and I held him in my arms. His breathing went weird, it was very short and shallow followed by a big gasp and then back to short and shallow again. Then I think he started to convulse. This happened a few times and then I realised he was gone.

He had only just turned one, we hadn’t even had him for a year. I’m absolutely devastated and can’t stop crying and I feel like an idiot for it. I just miss him so much. His death seemed so violent and I keep thinking he must’ve been frightened and in pain. I’m so sad.

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Riddlemesenseless · 05/07/2026 15:25

What was the cause?

Owenspannas · 05/07/2026 15:25

We don’t know. I didn’t think to ask last night.

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tinyspiny · 05/07/2026 15:28

Sorry for your loss , in honesty his death was probably worse for you to see than it was for him and what he will have known is that he was with people who loved him . We lost our 3 yo cat last year following emergency surgery and 15 months in I just can’t think about it at all because I still can’t process what went wrong . Just take it one day at a time 💐

Riddlemesenseless · 05/07/2026 15:28

Owenspannas · 05/07/2026 15:25

We don’t know. I didn’t think to ask last night.

Ask tomorrow
before you replace

purpleme12 · 05/07/2026 15:29

I'm really sorry about your loss

Owenspannas · 05/07/2026 15:40

We have no plans to replace Barney

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Riddlemesenseless · 05/07/2026 15:41

Still important to find out why OP. I’m sorry for loss .

Iheartlibrarians · 09/07/2026 10:52

Agree with @tinyspiny. You were there and that will have comforted him like nothing else could.

It's so very sad and I hope you do feel able to welcome another cat in time- you won't be thinking about it now, but it's a tribute to the space they take up in your life, not a betrayal.

Dewdust · 09/07/2026 11:14

It hurts when a cat dies. Even grown men have been known to cry.

FlippyKiYayFlippyFlipper · 09/07/2026 11:18

So sorry OP that’s heartbreaking. You did all you could for him and it’s lovely you were with him for his final moments. He wasn’t alone, he knew you were trying to help.
Please share a photo if you’d like to.
RIP Barney 💐

FiveShelties · 09/07/2026 11:21

How awful for you @Owenspannas I am so sorry. Don't feel an Idiot for being upset, I lost my beautiful Sheltie to months ago and seem to cry every day.

Theseventhmagpie · 09/07/2026 11:40

I’m so sorry, awful for you all.
💐x

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