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My darling cat got run over today :(

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Poppytime · 27/06/2026 15:38

I’ve had my two rescue cats for 6 months, they are just over a year old, tabby siblings - the kids, DH and I adore them and they’ve brought so much joy. We live rurally in a village with a small lane running up past our house. The cats have been going out daily for a few months now with tracker collars and they’ve enjoyed it, usually we are out there too but have been leaving them to it as they come back when called, we’re very precious cat parents (!) and have been quite anxious about it but started to relax. Well today my lovely boy cat was run over and killed by a neighbour going up the lane. Not her fault, it was an accident but we are all devastated and I’m honestly not sure at the moment how I can get over it. I wfh and spend so much time with them, they were really opening up and he was my little shadow - they were such a bonded pair, I’m desperately sad for my little girl cat, I can’t stop crying - I feel he is about to come round the corner and watch me putting away laundry or miaow for his biscuits. How do I get over this? The kids are so upset. It feels huge 😢 - we thought they were safe here, they don’t really go near the lane and I usually keep an eye on the tracker but I was busy this morning. I feel like I’ve failed him, failed her, the family. He deserved a long and happy life. I’m bereft …. I’m hoping others here understand. I never knew I could love a pet so much but they had become a part of the family in such a short time.

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LarryLobstersShoes · 27/06/2026 16:49

Oh so sorry for your loss. That’s utterly heartbreaking. You did everything you could and the problem with cats, is they are free range and therefore at risk whatever you do. We lived in the perfect kitty friendly house a few years ago, a small unadopted cul-de-sac at the edge of a small village with our own garden & woodland behind, and more woods behind that. Then some monster shot her with an air rifle in the public woods behind our woods, and although she managed to crawl home, she lost a back leg. That taught me there’s never a completely safe place. When we first got her she had survived five years with us in a house in town near busy roads, to then have that happen to her where she should have been safe, so I do understand how you’re feeling. It sounds like you provided him with a lovely home & life. So sorry again for your loss but it’s definitely not your fault and horrible random things like this do happen sadly. x

ShinyBlueTractor · 27/06/2026 17:00

Ah, so sorry, I've been there and it's awful. Not your fault in any way but it's a really sad thing to happen

Poppytime · 27/06/2026 17:11

Thank you both. I keep bursting into tears and can’t bear to look at a photo of him. They were a lovely pair. I’m so upset for Luna (my girl). I wonder if I’m being silly but he just meant so much to us all even though we had him for a cruelly short time. He should have had a lovely long life. I’m so worried about Luna going out now, I know I can’t restrict her, and she is more cautious than her brother but I’m going to be so worried. Not thinking too much about it yet but could it be possible to at some point get a companion for Luna? I’m thinking if we did it would be a female kitten? I just feel so sad for her losing her best friend :(

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Poppytime · 27/06/2026 17:12

Btw that’s awful about your cat Larry - monsters indeed, just sickening

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Merryredsnail · 27/06/2026 17:14

Just to say I'm sorry about your kitty x

TokyoSushi · 27/06/2026 17:14

Oh I’ve been there, it’s so so awful, sending lots of love.

MrsColinRobinson · 27/06/2026 17:16

I'm so sorry. That's so heartbreaking 💔

I lost a young healthy seeming gorgeous boy last year. I really don't have advice but send love and empathy, together with an unmumsnetty hug

GuppytheCat · 27/06/2026 17:17

See how she goes and give her and yourselves time to grieve. She's young enough to take to a companion but all cats differ

LarryLobstersShoes · 27/06/2026 17:54

You’re not being silly. I can still easily shed a tear when looking at photos of my late cats & dogs. The connection we have with our animals is a very special one. Even if we only had them for a short time.

Poppytime · 27/06/2026 18:07

It really is a special connection and as much as it breaks my heart to see my kids upset, having a pet has shown them so many things and they really loved him so I don’t regret it in that sense - trying to be all jolly for his sister now :(

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Orangebadger · 27/06/2026 18:11

sending lots of love. I feel so sad for you all. It’s so heartbreaking when we loose our fur babies but can be even more so when they are young. Lots of hugs

Poppytime · 27/06/2026 22:17

we are all exhausted and red eyed tonight Sad

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catslovehairties · 27/06/2026 23:34

It’s awful. We lost our youngest to the road in March - he was running back home when someone sped round the corner, hit him and didn’t stop.

Poppytime · 28/06/2026 10:06

catslovehairties · 27/06/2026 23:34

It’s awful. We lost our youngest to the road in March - he was running back home when someone sped round the corner, hit him and didn’t stop.

I’m so sorry 😔 that’s heartless - trying to put all our emotions and efforts into our remaining girl now. She is still searching for him but I hope that fades with time, as sad as that is to think about. He was a lovely boy. Need to stop crying!

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Poppytime · 28/06/2026 10:07

And your username - my boy cat loved a hair tie!!

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catslovehairties · 28/06/2026 10:49

@Poppytime thank you Flowers luckily another driver saw what happened and stopped and took our boy to the vet.

The name is from our ginger boy who was hit and he was hair tie obsessed too. My older cats aren't interested, lol.

Lacksplease · 28/06/2026 11:03

Oh sending so much love. I'm so sorry. My gorgeous girl was hit 13 years ago. The guilt of not being able to protect them is so much! Especially when they 'should' have been safe. I console myself that of all the owners they could have had (and there's plenty of crap cat owners) they got you. And so in their short little lives all they had was love from you. And that's pretty special and they were pretty lucky.

Poppytime · 28/06/2026 15:20

Ah thanks you @Lacksplease- yes so many don’t have loving homes I know, and we definitely tried to give him that. I will definitely be nervous about letting his sister out now, tbh she doesn’t care as much for the outdoors as he did (so at least he was doing something he enjoyed) but I’m still going to worry a lot. I’ve kept her in since yesterday ..

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Breadcat24 · 28/06/2026 17:03

so sorry

MumofMaskers · 28/06/2026 21:06

Hello, just thought I'd post after reading what happened to your poor boy. As I'm a few short days ahead in terms of timeline (4 days, so barely anything in grand scheme of things) I just wanted to say things have got better for me a little each day, I think because a big part of it was the shock of it all which had a huge impact emotionally and physically. I couldn't eat or sleep for a few days and the awful heat didn't help. Once I could start to eat a bit more things started to settle and I've gradually been able to laugh and have normal times for a brief period - obviously thoughts still return to what happened and missing my girl a lot, but gradually I'm sure it will lessen and each day will be a little less painful than the one before.

I did call the Blue Cross pet bereavement line which was helpful - also if you look on my thread someone recommended a book, Soul Comfort for Cat Lovers, which I'm listening to as an audiobook, and it's comforting. I'm here if you want to talk x

Poppytime · 28/06/2026 21:43

Thank you so much - it’s so helpful to hear from people who have experienced it and understand the real grief you feel. Today has been a little better, we have really come together as a family actually and I’m really trying to keep the kids spirits up.

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DoraDont · 28/06/2026 23:29

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I lost a cat many years ago to a car and the shock was awful.

Today we’ve had our 15 yo boy put to sleep as his diabetes wasn’t responding to any treatment and his kidneys were failing. It’s a very different grief as we had a little time to to prepare ourselves. Our 11yo is devastated though.

Be kind to yourselves.

Poppytime · 29/06/2026 08:09

Sorry for losing your lovely boy @DoraDont- I’m sure you had many happy years together and it will always be sad whenever you lose them. Maybe all our cats are playing together up there somewhere Flowers

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