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The worst day today

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OnlyYellowRoses · 17/04/2026 12:20

So my beautiful, manky little old man had to be put to sleep this morning. He would have been 16 in June.
He'd been slowing down a lot and back early last year was diagnosed with epilepsy but it was being well managed with meds, he’d only have a fit once every couple of months and then be back to normal after resting for a few hours.
Last night he didn’t want his dinner and was breathing a bit funny for around 5 mins but then settled down to sleep and I thought I’d just keep my eye on him.
This morning I left him dozing in the sunshine beam behind our front door, did school run, came back and as I came through the door he was laid on his side panting.
I quickly scooped him up but he was all floppy, normally he’d try to eat my face at me daring to cuddle him not on his terms. I rushed him to the vet but I think I knew. He didn’t meow in his box at all and normally he’d try to escape or make his disgust at the box of doom well known!
The vet listened to his chest, breathing and felt his tummy and then did that awful slow stroke whilst giving me the sympathy face. I burst into tears and asked if this was it.
This was the first animal I’ve ever had that I’ve been in the room for. My childhood dog was done by my parents and my other cat was done during Covid so I wasn’t allowed to be in the room with her.
I gave him a cuddle properly and told him he’d been such a good boy and he was gone before the vet even took his needle out of the little port in his paw.
Normally I never cry, even when my children were born (which he has been there and in the room for 4 out of 5 of them!) but I bawled like an absolute baby.
I know it was time but I already miss his grumpy little presence so much.
Ive come home and the dog is wondering where her little mate is. His little dent in the wingback chair is still there, we saved for so long to buy the chair but he commandeered it and it became lovingly known as the £300 cat basket 😂
Ive got to tell the children when they come home from school and it’s going to be so, so awful.
I know it was the kind thing to do, his heart was failing and the vet said if I took him home he would be in pain and it may be slow for him but I feel so guilty. He trusted me to help him and make him better but I let them put him down.
I would have paid anything for them to make him better, he has full whack insurance but the vet said it was time.
I don’t know why I’m posting but I just needed someone else who loves cats to reassure me that it was the right thing to do I suppose. My beautiful little grumpy boy. He’s seen my children born, been through 4 house moves with me, watched two relationships end then seen me marry. He’s always been there, my little £5 kitten from the back of the newspaper adverts.

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spiderlight · 17/04/2026 12:29

I am so very sorry. It's just the worst pain, but you know in your heart that you did the best and kindest thing for him and gave him the gift of peace. I always feel that it's part of the soul contract we take on when we open our hearts to animals - when their pain gets too much, we release them from it and carry it ourselves instead. My heart truly goes out to you though. He sounds like a fantastic little character. Telling your kids will be hard, but hopefully you can all support each other.

CookieDes · 17/04/2026 12:31

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet grumpy boy. Rest assured you absolutely did the right and kindest thing for him, even though it’s heartbreaking. It’s the very last act of love we can do for these lovely little souls we share our lives with. It’s clear from your post that he was much loved and adored, and right until the very end you were there for him. Sleep well little one.

justthecat · 17/04/2026 12:34

Bless him, but he’s out of pain and after a long happy life that’s the best thing you could do for him. 💐

Nutcrackerglasses · 17/04/2026 12:57

So sorry for your loss, it is absolutely devastating when they pass. I really feel your pain 😢 I have a grumpy little old lady who will be 16 next year. We lost her brother very unexpectedly and suddenly and we can now smile at his beautiful face in photos and remember him for the funny, sweet and loving boy that he was. Look after yourself and know that you did the best thing for him and he was loved and cared for. He enjoyed a safe, not to mention, luxurious life with you and his chair. We are so lucky to share time with these wonderful souls ❤️

OnlyYellowRoses · 17/04/2026 12:57

Thank you all. I just needed someone else to ‘talk to’ about him. It was all just a bit sudden you know? Although I could see him beginning to slow down and age more, I just didn’t realise when I woke up today that it would be today, just left the house like a normal day and then 90 mins later I’m driving back from the vet with an empty box and his frayed old collar in my pocket.
At least I got to say goodbye and give him a proper squeezie cuddle (I’d always said the only day he’d ever let me properly squishy snuggle him and his fluffy tummy would be the day he died) and I hope he knew he was so loved.

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afaloren · 17/04/2026 12:59

I’m so sorry. It’s so brutal. You made the last, loving decision for him and he’s no longer suffering. Take care of yourself.

Frenchfemme · 17/04/2026 13:17

You did make him better, you took away his pain and discomfort surrounded by love and compassion. Better that it was sudden than a slow miserable decline, even though it’s always a shock. Thank you for being brave and doing the right and loving thing for your lovely boy. Be kind to yourself 💔🌈💔

Shedmistress · 17/04/2026 13:20

It really is heartbreaking when a fur ball goes. So sorry.

Dilbertian · 17/04/2026 13:50

You did the right thing. Love and care are not always easy.

Sending (((hugs)))

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 17/04/2026 13:53

Don't feel guilty.
Letting animals die peacefully and easily when they're old and in distress is the kindest thing you can do for them.

It's very sad, though. What was his name?

OnlyYellowRoses · 17/04/2026 14:02

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 17/04/2026 13:53

Don't feel guilty.
Letting animals die peacefully and easily when they're old and in distress is the kindest thing you can do for them.

It's very sad, though. What was his name?

Named after a legendary guitarist x

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Leeds157 · 17/04/2026 14:43

I’m so sorry for your loss, we all understand here what a cat means, and he had a good long life.
If a cat is panting they are in respiratory distress, and you helped him when his heart started failing him.
The absence of a cat is felt so deeply all around the house, I had to put my cat to sleep two years ago, and was not expecting the euthanasia to be so fast, it was like my boy had just been switched off. It feels horrible, but helping them to no longer be in pain and suffering when their body is failing them, is a kindness.
I have a lump in my throat typing this out to you, as it reminds me how sad seeing his things around the house without him was when we got home that day. Look after yourself and grieve and talk about him as much as you need x

Blorengia · 17/04/2026 14:56

So very sorry to read this story... As the owner of a 15 yr old cat with a couple of "old age" problems, and who is also the last of our group of three cats, I'm aware we may have to face this sort of scenario.
You loved your old lad very much, you didn't fail him at the end...

The worst day today
Frenchfemme · 17/04/2026 16:01

OnlyYellowRoses · 17/04/2026 14:02

Named after a legendary guitarist x

Has to be Dr Sir Brian May then! Other guitarists are available…

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 17/04/2026 17:28

So sorry, OP - I swear I cried more after we said goodbye to our lovely girl than when my dad died. Cats are just amazing and we are so lucky to have them. Your boy was lucky to have you to advocate for him to make sure he had a peaceful crossing too,

OnlyYellowRoses · 17/04/2026 22:39

Leeds157 · 17/04/2026 14:43

I’m so sorry for your loss, we all understand here what a cat means, and he had a good long life.
If a cat is panting they are in respiratory distress, and you helped him when his heart started failing him.
The absence of a cat is felt so deeply all around the house, I had to put my cat to sleep two years ago, and was not expecting the euthanasia to be so fast, it was like my boy had just been switched off. It feels horrible, but helping them to no longer be in pain and suffering when their body is failing them, is a kindness.
I have a lump in my throat typing this out to you, as it reminds me how sad seeing his things around the house without him was when we got home that day. Look after yourself and grieve and talk about him as much as you need x

That’s exactly what it was like, like the vet had pressed the light switch and he just went straight ‘off’. That’s how I tried to describe it to the children earlier.

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colloqneuro · 17/04/2026 23:11

I just cried for you/him 😥😢

HatStickBoots · 18/04/2026 00:12

So sorry for your loss 😞💔 what a lovely little character. I love that he took over the expensive chair and left his imprint. I too cried and suffered more heartbreak over the losses of my cats than when my father died.

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