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Newly adopted cat behind washing machine

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PotassiumPermanganate · 08/12/2025 16:51

We got a new cat from an adoption centre on Saturday, four years old, a bit shy and quiet but apparently happy with people once she gets used to them. Brought her home and she went to hide under the sofa, which is fine. She came out for a little explore, booped our noses, climbed on us a bit, then went back to her hiding place. But as soon as she ventured into the kitchen, she darted straight behind the washing machine and has pretty much stayed there. She was on her own in the house for an hour when I had to go to the shops on Saturday night and husband had unexpectedly gone out, despite his insistence on getting the cat that day and that he was going to be the best adopter in the world. That's another long story. So when I came home and parked up outside the house, I could see her through the window, mooching around in the living room which was great! As soon as I went in she went back behind the washing machine and has only since been out in the night to get food. I can't tell if she's used the litter tray, but worryingly the area around the washer smells a bit as if she's had a wee there.
When we had our previous cat, he would often go there too, along with other cats who would sometimes get in, so there's something very attractive to cats behind there. So now husband is massively anxious and is ranting and raving, including blaming me for 'losing' her the other night when he was out all night. He wants to pull the washer out tonight and force her out. I think give it at least another day and see if she emerges on her own. Any advice??? I only agreed to getting this cat to alleviate husband's anxiety, and now he's ten times worse and I could just walk out. He did his best to ruin our son's 18th with his bawling and shouting and I feel mentally and physically exhausted. Help.

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MissNowt · 08/12/2025 17:23

I’d give her more time OP. Everything will be very new to her & she must feel safe behind there with the smell of the other cat.

Wise with hindsight & all that but ideally if you could have kept her in one room for a couple of days with a comfy bed, her toys & litter tray that might have helped. Popping in to see her a few times just to let her get used to you. If there’s an option for that when she comes out then it’s still worth a try.

Meanwhile I’d invest in a couple of the Feliway diffusers to help settle her. Once she comes out (& she will - just at her own pace) then I’d spray behind the washer with a special pet enzyme spray to take the wee smell away & make it less attractive to her.

They’re very attuned to stress & your husband’s shenanigans won’t be helping her settle. 🙄

Good luck & I’m sure she’ll reward you given time.

PotassiumPermanganate · 08/12/2025 18:02

Thank you @MissNowt hopefully we'll get a chance to make her more comfortable when she comes out. If I was stuck in the house with DH as she has been today, I think I'd go for the washing machine option as well...... 🙄

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MissNowt · 08/12/2025 18:07

Ha ha @PotassiumPermanganate- cats aren’t daft!

CurlyKoalie · 08/12/2025 18:08

The cats behaviour seems totally normal given the stressy behaviour of your husband.
The more he shouts, the more the cat will hide as evidenced by it only coming out when you left the house.
I have had my rescue cat a year and she still hides if she picks up on bad vibes.
Your husband will need to make a conscious effort to be calmer and quieter otherwise I can't really see it working.

Tatemoderndrawyourown · 08/12/2025 18:13

My adopted one stayed in the wardrobe (one door so not even spacious) for three days. She slowly got out of it on day number four and her space became bigger and bigger with time. It’s all good. I kept talking out ‘loud’ in a kind tone so she would get used to my voice.

EmpressaurusKitty · 08/12/2025 18:17

I had a foster cat who spent the first 48 hours behind my bedside table. I covered the carpet in newspaper, put everything she needed nearby & let her come out when she was ready,

Agree your husband needs to calm down & be quiet.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 08/12/2025 18:17

Our cat hid (not very well) behind the TV stand or on top of the bookcase on his second, third and fourth days with us. The first night he was totally happy and confident so it was a surprise, but by day five he was much more sociable. My DP was away for work and I largely left him (cat, not DP) to it, spoke to him softly, and said his name a lot - I knew he wasn’t eating much so on day four opened a can of tuna which definitely got the better of his aloofness. By the time DP got home he didn’t believe me that he had ever been a hissy-hidey cat. He’s now the funniest, cuddliest wee boy but I think that 3/3/3 “rule” holds a lot of truth.

Our previous girl we adopted direct from her family, so she was a much easier transition and up cuddled in my lap the first night. She still had a few days of sleeping hidden behind the living room curtains though.

Agree with pp that cats pick up on stress/general mood and that your husband won’t be helping. Our boy hates it if we have a row (not that it’s often) and knows if someone’s sad.

propercoppercoffeepot · 08/12/2025 18:18

10 years ago my adopted cat decided sitting in a slow cooker in a kitchen cupboard was a great hiding space for a good few days!

Mammamiammamia · 08/12/2025 18:24

Pull out washing machine
Remove cat
Insert husband into space
Replace washing machine
Problem solved

Justmadesourkraut · 08/12/2025 18:28

Yy to Feliway plug ins. Could you get her a nice cosy box and put it under the kitchen table, with a cosy cloth over it, and a trail of treats leading to it?

If you really need to reclaim your washing machine, get some chicken wire to scrunch up, to block the routes in.

Best of luck.

Wrenjay · 08/12/2025 18:31

Doesn't she use a litter tray? Ours stayed in a shell cat bed for 3 weeks and only came out to use litter tray and eat!

PotassiumPermanganate · 08/12/2025 18:34

I put down some boiled chicken in her feedling bowl for her next to the washer, our old cat loved that, and I just caught her gobbling it and darting back to her hiding place as I sneaked back in to the kitchen. Husband then promptly undid all the good work by attempting to pull the washing machine out making a right racket. Who knows when she'll reappear now.

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Pearlstillsinging · 08/12/2025 18:39

Husband is an idiot!

Moonstone20 · 08/12/2025 18:55

My rescue girl spent 5 days behind the washing machine when I got her. Eventually she started venturing out as long as I sat still and at a distance. During the 5 days I was in the kitchen as normal and would chat to her, and put a food bowl and litter close by.

She warmed up a lot after the 5 days, even got on my lap. Absolutely stop your DH from dragging her out, she feels safe there and needs to come out in her own time.

texarkana · 08/12/2025 21:59

Ours spent a week under the sofa, no wees the first night and only used the tray at night for almost week. Thinks she owns the place now and it’s only been a month!

bestcatlife · 08/12/2025 22:22

Please don't drag her out, she'll come out of her own accord.. most cats do this. Keep talking to her and encouraging her, leave food and water nearby.

Lunde · 08/12/2025 22:40

I found a cat in the garden in February eating bird food, fatballs and stale bread. He spent almost 3 weeks hiding behind his litter tray refusing to make any eye contact with us at all and a further 2 weeks hiding in a sleeping box. I had a thread on here about him.

Following advice here we talked to him, played music and got some toys - he was like a large overgrown kitten for balls, toy mice and anything that dangled on a string. Eventually and gradually he began to trust us and made his way out for a little sniff or stroke.

10 months on he is the biggest lap-cat you could ever imagine - so just give him some time.

Newly adopted cat behind washing machine
Moonstone20 · 09/12/2025 05:58

Beautiful cat @lunde!

PotassiumPermanganate · 09/12/2025 09:30

Update! She popped her head out when I was putting her food in her bowl this morning, so I worked my way backwards into the living room, holding the bowl, closed the kitchen door and she was freed! Then I managed to get back into the kitchen while she was distracted and blocked the entrance to her hiding place. The only thing is, she is desperate to get back in there as there are obviously lots of catty pheromones in that space, she was up on the kitchen bench, leaping around and mewing like mad. How do I solve that? The enzyme spray?

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EmpressaurusKitty · 09/12/2025 09:37

Well done!!!

Simple Solution is good for getting rid of the smells, they should have it at Pets at Home.

Shedmistress · 09/12/2025 09:41

She needs 3 days without a couple of people banging about and blocking her access to somewhere safe. Did you not have a room put aside for her? Did you get no advice from wherever you got her from?

Twoshoesnewshoes · 09/12/2025 09:50

I think unblock the access to her hiding place, focus instead on gently coaxing her out.
can you get your DH rehomed? That will probably help the most.

herbalteabag · 09/12/2025 10:09

It's quite normal behaviour for a newly adopted cat as they're very territorial and need time to get used to new surroundings. It's best just to let them be and go at their pace. If you don't want her behind the washing machine then keep it blocked off, she'll probably find a new hiding place until she's settled.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 09/12/2025 12:49

I’d honestly just let her do her thing (unless she is in danger/causing danger) for a bit until
she’s comfortable. My MIL’s kitten wanted to go up the chimney when she adopted him and his mum (quite a few years ago now) which obviously wasn’t a goer safety-wise, but she left the mama cat in her safe space - wedged behind the breadbin - until she wanted to come out. That took a few days in which she ate a lot of toast and chatted to her as she did so!

PotassiumPermanganate · 09/12/2025 13:35

There are safe hiding places she can be. She initially started off under the armchair under the stairs, and I'm told she's back there now. I do need to do some washing so I'm glad she is out of there now. I know she likes it, but it's not good for her if I've got the washing machine on every other day. Hopefully things will start to work out now. As for DH, yes, rehoming is a possibility. I have other threads about this! Thanks everyone for your help 👍🏻

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