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My beloved girl .

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Threetoedsloth · 04/12/2025 13:34

On Tuesday last week we said goodbye to our wonderful Birman puss called Clover. She was 18 years 8 months old and has been an utter joy throughout her long life. Tiny though she was, the space left by her absence feels both infinite and cavernous.
I know the pain will lessen as time goes by because I have been honoured to live alongside cats for many many years (I am an old fing) but at the moment I (and my DH too) feel completely bereft. I know it's the price we pay but it's so hideously high and horribly painful.
We are blessed with two other cats who are fabulous in every way so we have our fluffy ones to soothe our sorrow. But forever isn't long enough with them, is it? They should arrive when we arrive and depart when we go- like Philip Pullman's daemons, inextricably linked for all time.

My beloved girl .
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Ketzele · 04/12/2025 13:48

I'm so sorry. She is so beautiful and I'm sure was a very special and very loved cat.

LiteraryBambi · 04/12/2025 13:52

Sympathies OP, Clover is beautiful and am sure is at peace now. I'm a relatively new cat owner but am already dreading the day when he is taken from us. I'm sure Clover had a lovely, happy and fulfilled life

Chickydoo · 04/12/2025 13:59

What a beauty! I understand your heartache, these fluffy ones become part of our lives. One day at a time, it gets easier 🐈

Tangomango1 · 04/12/2025 14:05

I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful girl she is. We lost our 17 year old cat last year & I honestly think about him every day. I can still hear his little paws tip toeing across the floor & the cat flap banging shut, as he came into the house. It will get easier but just remember what a fabulous and most of all, loved life that you gave her.

Dublassie · 04/12/2025 14:08

What a lovely , wise post . I’m so sorry . I’m crazily in love with my dogs so I understand xx.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 04/12/2025 19:42

So sorry. She was a beautiful girl, OP. My girl was my littlest love and my greatest heartbreak.18 months on I can think on her with so much joy for her funny little ways and I am so grateful we had her even though we had to say goodbye to her at only age ten.

Gribouille · 04/12/2025 19:57

What a beauty! Those eyes... you can see she was special.

I totally understand how you feel, it's so awful right now... And you also know as a long-term cat lover that the grief will soften in time, but the joy and gratitude and happy memories will remain. ❤️🤗

HatStickBoots · 04/12/2025 20:54

I’m so sorry for your loss and know exactly how you feel. Dear little Clover ❤️

Threetoedsloth · 04/12/2025 21:54

Thank you so much for your compassion and kindness. You all understand perfectly as I knew you would.
We brought her home on Monday - I was horrified to see that she was in what amounted to a posh Pringles tube, cue fresh wailing. It seems they don't do little wooden boxes nowadays, which is what all our lost loved ones reside in, with a brass plaque bearing their name.
But it was easy to source a tiny oak one with her name carved on it and a little pawprint. I also have a lovely water colour of a clover and a gold leafed C which is truly fitting for our gorgeous girl. I will have it framed next week.
We will get through this and we will be able to dwell again in the joy of her, once we have healed a little. In the meantime we limp along as best we can. (our other two are double snuggly with knobs on- they like that they can get closer to us now that little sweetie is no longer welded to our sides)

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SharpWriter · 04/12/2025 22:03

Hi OP. Just came to say I'm sorry. I lost my beautiful girl a few years back now- she was 22. Horrid isn't it? I have her photo on my kitchen window sill and every time I look at it I feel happy remembering the time we had together. I have another little rascal now but I'll never forget my past loves! I love the way you write by the way. Loads of love xx

Notmymarmosets · 04/12/2025 22:09

I talk to my departed cat everyday. He has loads to say! In fact he guided us to our new cat and he made a splendid choice. I look forward to us all being together at the end. Your cat was and still is amazing.

FionnulaTheCooler · 04/12/2025 22:10

I'm so sorry. We lost our 18 year old cat earlier this year too and although the pain has eased a bit I still miss her so much. She was my constant companion through so many life stages and my remaining cat is much more aloof and doesn't really do affection. I've got her urn on my windowsill where she loved to sit and have a nosy at the world going by.

Jenpen31 · 05/12/2025 15:48

So sorry for your loss of little Clover. What a gorgeous cat! Been here myself with my old cat earlier this year. I preferred his company to most humans. Massive loss.

Pudmyboy · 05/12/2025 16:09

Clover is, and always will be, a beautiful girl, so sorry for your loss. I agree with other posters that you write eloquently and with great sensitivity, your love for her shines through 💐

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