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Why is she biting?

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WatchThisGladys · 28/11/2025 12:54

My DSis currently has a swollen bandaged hand and is on antibiotics. She adopted a cat a few months ago. Molly is eight or nine years old and has had at least two previous homes. The rescue centre warned that she was known to "nip", but I'd say that she bites, as she breaks the skin. She's very shy and rarely goes outside as she's frightened of other cats. She spends a lot of her time in her favourite hiding places in DSis's house, but maybe twice a day she will come out and be sociable.

Approximately 29 times out of 30 there's no problem - Molly will approach someone and nuzzle them, sometimes even climbing on to their lap. She appears to be asking to be stroked and we learned pretty quickly that she likes to be stroked on the top of her head and never under the chin. Nevertheless, she sometimes bites hard and with little or no warning. She has bitten DSis, BIL and me (although the second time she tried to bite me, I managed to snatch my hand away just in time). She doesn't show any obvious signs of having had enough of being stroked, e.g. pulling away, miaowing or thumping her tail.

DSis worries that at her age, she'll never learn not to bite. I don't know why she does it - is it anger or could she be over-excited or even trying to play?

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HelloCharming · 28/11/2025 12:58

They get overstimulated - we had to learn the warning signs with our cat (after a friend ended up in A&E after he bit her while she was cat sitting for us). They were there - it didn't happen completely out of the blue. Our cat would just stiffen a bit and his ears would go back slightly - hardly at all. It was very subtle. We learnt to stop probably too soon for his liking - which also didn't go down well....https://www.catcaresociety.org/overstimulation-in-cats/

Overstimulation in Cats: Understanding “Aggressive” Behavior and Finding Solutions

Learn the warning signs when a cat is nearing its threshold for physical touch — before they bite or scratch.

https://www.catcaresociety.org/overstimulation-in-cats

Sillysoggyspaniel · 28/11/2025 13:01

I'd recommend doing a touch test every ten seconds or so... Basically you stop stroking and if she initiates more contact by bumping you for instance then stroke for another ten secs. If she doesn't, don't stroke again. Hopefully she'll start to realise she doesn't need to bite because people are listening to her not wanting to continue the contact.

MiGataCalico · 28/11/2025 13:21

Is she a tortie?

WatchThisGladys · 28/11/2025 13:28

She's a tabby and white. I forgot to mention that she's had a check-up from a vet (a £70 chat, apparently) and he had no concerns about her health.

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MiGataCalico · 28/11/2025 13:49

I'd do what @Sillysoggyspaniel suggests and just stroke in short bursts when requested to prevent overstimulation.

CiderWithRosie1972 · 28/11/2025 13:54

One of mine does this and I have had her since kittenhood. She has never known cruelty from an adult she has lived with, the people I bought her from were loving and caring towards her.

I always warn people that she can 'turn'. She sometimes gives no warning.

She sometimes sleeps on my pillow and is all lovely, purring and enjoying being stroked but I move her before I fall asleep as she has been known to slightly scratch or 'turn' on me in the night.

I have always had cats and never had one this unpredictable. It happens very infrequently, too. She is a very, very good hunter ('gifts' are becoming less frequent, fortunately) and I think this is why; she is stealthy and fast.

She's a lovely girl, really.

CiderWithRosie1972 · 28/11/2025 13:55

WatchThisGladys · 28/11/2025 13:28

She's a tabby and white. I forgot to mention that she's had a check-up from a vet (a £70 chat, apparently) and he had no concerns about her health.

Mine is also a tabby.

snoopythebeagle · 28/11/2025 16:07

Pain or overstimulation - one of ours does this (though he never breaks the skin) - he’s arthritic and it hurts him to be petted even though he likes it at first.

Tdcp · 28/11/2025 21:22

On the face of it it sounds like petting aggression. My tortie has it and there's been no helping her, she's super loving then turns in a second. You need to learn the cats cues I.e for mine she goes 'pointy', it's a weird thing to describe but as soon as I see it I stop touching her and she wanders off on her own accord with no biting.

WatchThisGladys · 28/11/2025 22:12

These replies have been very helpful. I think we're going to have to stroke her only briefly when she lifts up her head to us or nuzzles. Sometimes, she also enjoys a game with her "fishing rod" toys - they're useful as we can keep our hands well out of her way.

I'm not sure what made me pull my hand away when she last tried to bite me, but I'm wondering if she did indeed stiffen or change or facial expression before she pounced. She hasn't bitten my DS yet, but that might just be coincidence as he's not super-careful with her.

I suppose this is why owner no. 2 bunged her in the rescue centre!

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TomatoSandwiches · 28/11/2025 22:25

CiderWithRosie1972 · 28/11/2025 13:54

One of mine does this and I have had her since kittenhood. She has never known cruelty from an adult she has lived with, the people I bought her from were loving and caring towards her.

I always warn people that she can 'turn'. She sometimes gives no warning.

She sometimes sleeps on my pillow and is all lovely, purring and enjoying being stroked but I move her before I fall asleep as she has been known to slightly scratch or 'turn' on me in the night.

I have always had cats and never had one this unpredictable. It happens very infrequently, too. She is a very, very good hunter ('gifts' are becoming less frequent, fortunately) and I think this is why; she is stealthy and fast.

She's a lovely girl, really.

She sounds like an excellent cat 😍

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