The neighbours cat appears desperate to live here instead of his own home. He first appeared two years ago at Christmas and was trying to break in the closed cat flap and howling and scratching on the patio doors really desperate to come in. It transpired his owners were away for 3 weeks which I was told by a cat sitter who was popping in 3 times a week. She also said they have 3 cats, one of which is a bully.
The cat that is trying to live here is a gentle cat who is not aggressive to our cat. We are at home most of the time with the patio doors and windows open from mid Spring to mid Autumn and he just wanders in, finds somewhere to sleep and settles down happily. He sometimes finds a cosy hideaway hoping we won't put him out. We tried putting him out continuously but difficult without closing all doors and windows.
He appeared about 6 weeks ago with an AirTag on so guessing neighbours are wondering where he goes all the time. We have not let him in (easier when weather is colder) but he sits on the doormat instead. He's always around if we go out he greets us on our return. He's outside now meowing in the pouring rain asking to come in. We don't feed him as don't want to confuse him but he clearly wants to live here instead. He looks so sad and guessing doesn't understand why he can't come in. Our household has adults around all the time and an older cat. The neighbours have two young children and 3 cats. The neighbour did say to me that one of the children is a bit overbearing on the cat. What should we do?