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It is so quiet without him

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MojoMoon · 15/07/2025 00:59

My beautiful boy died a few hours ago. He had heart failure and it all happened so fast.

I have never been in this house without him and it feels so quiet.

He almost always slept in my bed, right next to me on the pillow. And now it's just me. How do I go to sleep without him there?

We snuggled at lunchtime and he had a nap on my lap while I carefully balanced the laptop so not to disturb him. How can he be gone just a few hours later?

I took the bins out before going to bed and automatically shut the door behind me because he wasn't allowed out the front door but he wasn't there trying to get out.

I worked from home today. I wouldn't normally on a Monday. But maybe I sensed something this morning. The vet said he would have only survived a few months at best with treatment and he would have hated being given drugs or taken for regular check ups. Maybe that's why he hid it so well. I really didn't think when I took him in this afternoon that it could be it.

I hope he knew he was loved.

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CatChant · 15/07/2025 01:09

I am so sorry. They leave such an aching emptiness behind them.

From the way you speak of him I have no doubt he knew that he was loved every day of his life with you.

Be kind to yourself over the days and weeks to come. It’s natural to grieve.

Oxo01 · 15/07/2025 01:56

So sorry its so painfull and takes time to ease a little.
One of mine had to be put to sleep out of the blue January 6th she would sleep on my pillow every night, not a day goes by without thinking of her along with a little cry sometimes, bit easier but not forgotten. X

Goandygo · 15/07/2025 02:04

He knew he was loved, and you loved him right til the very end, doing the best for him.
My situation very similar and we had him pts last April. All I could say in the days after was that the silence was deafening.
He slept on my bed, too.
Sometimes I picture him there and talk to him.
It's a terrible pain, but it does get better.
Sending you ❤️

Minimilia · 15/07/2025 18:37

I'm so sorry for you loss, I don't doubt for a second he knew how incredibly loved he was. Be very gentle to yourself over the next few days, these little souls leave such big paw prints on our hearts.

FallingDownARabbitHole · 15/07/2025 19:02

I’m so sorry for your loss 💕💕

Pudmyboy · 15/07/2025 20:14

So sorry for your loss, the love you have for him shines through your post, and that will never leave you 💐💐💐

RainbowZebraWarrior · 15/07/2025 20:19

Oh I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'm sure he knew he was loved very much. It sounds like you absolutely adored him. I have a ragdoll boy about to turn 9 who also sleeps next to me. I'm going to cuddle him extra hard tonight as you just never know when you will lose them do you?

Sending you much love ❤️

Pixiedust1234 · 15/07/2025 20:25

I am so sorry 💔 He will have known he was loved, animals do sense it. Be kind to yourself over the next few days Flowers

tattychicken · 15/07/2025 20:29

You've described such a wonderful life for a cat. How lucky he was to have landed with you.

swizzlestix · 15/07/2025 21:06

I am so so sorry. Your relationship with your cat sounded so very special. Sending you love x

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 16/07/2025 00:22

So sorry to read this. I totally get it.

My friend crocheted a mini lookalike of our last cat as a present for me, and for the first week or so after we lost her, I brought it through to her bed every night and did the usual “closing shift” routine, complete with “you be good, we love you, we’ll see you in the morning”. (I know that sounds so daft.) Coming in the front door and not seeing her behind the middle door waiting was actually the worst bit.

Your cat was so loved. 🤍

Penguinwaddler · 16/07/2025 13:28

I'm so sorry. My beautiful boy cat recently died following a heart failure diagnosis. It's such a shock, and so terribly sad. He also slept next to me every single night too and I'm finding it so hard without him. I still say good morning and goodnight to him, and tell him that I love him.

You did the right thing. My boy was on treatment for just over a month, but it was tough and every day was such a worry and it wasn't fair for him. When he told me it was time I was at peace with the decision and felt honored to let him go peacefully and with dignity. They know they are loved.

It will get easier. It's so hard but I believe it has to get easier in time.

Jacobs4 · 16/07/2025 13:32

I’m so sorry for your loss 🌹💜
Your cat knew he was loved, had a lovely life with you, and sounds like he had really good death. You can’t do better than that.
The absence of presence is so sad. We all feel for you.

Breadcat24 · 16/07/2025 13:42

So sorry your cat obviously loved you

Cattery · 16/07/2025 13:57

That’s a beautifully written tribute to him OP. I can feel your sadness. I’m so sorry you’ve lost him. He knew he was loved 🐈‍⬛❤️

mintydoggyv · 16/07/2025 13:57

So sorry over your sad loss . It's a painfull time for you , as there is a night and it gets dark and dreafull there will be a new dawn a new sun and a new light into your home , may be it's time to think of a lovely new little 🧡 friend

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