My beautiful cat died

[its2346]

She was five, fit, healthy, living her best life and loved by all us so much. She was hit by a car in the wee hours of Thursday morning and DH found her on the verge after someone posted a message on Facebook and we went to get her. I don’t know what she was doing there. It’s a distance to walk and we have fields and woods around us and a HUGE garden. We had no idea she ever left it. I have a heavy weight of pain in my chest and almost feel like I can’t breathe. I can’t stop crying. The shock is incomprehensible. My daughter had such a bond with her and she feels lost and alone. I’m sleeping with her at night to try get us both through it. When does it start hurting less? How do we get through this?

💐🐈‍⬛❤️ xxx

Thank you all for your kind words. I am not a frequent poster on this thread but I do read it often, and I knew the people here would understand. People know I love my animals, but I think some privately think it’s a bit over the top. We adore them. My cats seem to embody something pure and true and honest and they give me such peace and joy in this horrible world. It gives me this insane drive to love and protect them - to honour them. I know we gave her the best life a cat could ever have. I know that. But I wish I had done something more - and I don’t know what - to ensure her best life lasted years and years. She didn’t deserve this.

Thank you...sending love to you and your family too x

@its2346
hi lovely
how are you doing?
thinking of all of us who have lost our gorgeous ones ? Xx

I’ve been thinking of all of the others who posted here too; feeling very very sad but I always marvel at the massive and mysterious impact those small paws have on us.

I persuaded my daughter to go school today with a promise that I’d collect her if she found it too hard. My son has coped reasonably well. So I’m at home alone now for the first time with absolute emptiness and silence. I knew it would be like this when everyone was gone, and I knew I’d have to keep busy to distract myself. But I have no will to do anything at all though, and I have this heavy heavy weight inside me that makes breathing feel hard.

I miss her with every single fibre of my being. I want her back. I want her to scurry in with a rodent in her mouth and start crunching it while balefully challenging me to take it away. I want to go outside (I can’t bare this right now) and have her do flopsy-rolls at my feet on the dusty paving, giving me her squeaky myeps, before getting distracted by a bee or butterfly. I just want her back so much. I can’t believe she’s gone.

Please share with me how you are finding your ways forward. I’ve been here before in my life. The thing is, my appreciation and love for animals has grown and grown as I’ve aged and I’m finding this especially hard. This little girl brought something out in my children and I loved her for being a cat, but that love was magnified so much by what she taught my children. I’m more heartbroken than I could ever imagine.

I am so very sorry. They leave such an emptiness behind. But the pain you feel now is a measure of how very much she was loved.

It would be sadder if no one cared enough to miss her.

Time is the best healer. But it’s always hard getting through the days and weeks after they’re gone.

Be gentle with yourself.

When mine have died, truly, just by plodding on and allowing myself to cry whenever I needed.

And making donations to cat charities and, when the time is right, welcoming another cat or two in need of rescue because there are never enough good homes for all the cats who need them.

I’m so sorry for all of us .
I keep thinking I see her everywhere and dd is so devastated it’s breaking my heart.
I’m at work today and I’m doing ok but every now and then I remember what has happened and I feel that punch in the stomach again.
I’m struggling like you with the garden but I do feel that it’s getting a tiny bit less painful every day.
we are a week tomorrow from losing her and I just want a cuddle and to see her again 😢
sending so much love to you all xx

I lost my cat suddenly last year(one minute she was sunbathing, the next struggling to breathe) the pain was something else. I lost her sister 3 years before suddenly too (she had a heart attack in front of me).

I have their photos framed next to my desk as that's where they spent most of their time. They were my companions. I still shed a tear and miss them. I have two other cats now but neither spend their days in my study whilst I'm working.

It gets easier, it takes time. It was strange things that got me. I struggled taking my other cat to the vet the first time after the other's death, I was so scared I wouldn't come home with them, I cancelled the appointment and lied I couldn't find him (he was in the basket but I was panicking).

Print out and frame some photos then you can still see puss around the house. This helped me a lot.

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

As my Dad says "Pets are family".

I’m so sorry for your loss. Pets become our family members, so it hurts that they have to die before we do.

Just give it time, there is no instant cure for grief. Your cat must have had such a fantastic life to have such loving family.

Cats are wonderful and curious creatures.