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Inherited old, skinny cat but I've got no money

23 replies

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:11

My beloved Mum died last September, leaving her 17 year old neutered tom in my care. I think he has a bit of dementia with random howling at walls day and night, although easily distracted from it, so doesn't appear distressed or in pain.

In the last few weeks he's dramatically lost weight and is losing great clumps of fur (much more than usual Spring moult). He's incessantly screeching for food but refusing his urinary care dry food. He looks very raggedy, bless him.

He has become increasingly unsteady and uncoordinated and this morning seems to have weakened back legs.

He seems otherwise content.

I suspect he has a thyroid problem. The trouble is I am on ESA at the moment and have a very low income, so can't afford ongoing treatment. I would probably be eligible for help from PDSA, but the local branch is 45min drive away. I have friends to help with travel, but they work during office hours.

Mum allowed most of her cats to die naturally, with minimal interfering from a homeopathic vet, sometimes beyond what I felt was sensible, which was distressing to see.

I wouldn't want to re-home him as that would be so unkind. Nor do I want him to suffer, but realistically I can't afford long treatment.

At what point do I consider PTS the right thing as opposed to a selfish thing for me to do? I'm fond of the old boy and we rub along well, despite him being a bit of a PITA sometimes - he can't help it!

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 12/05/2025 10:12

I think you need to PTS now.

tinyspiny · 12/05/2025 10:14

I agree with the @Hoppinggreen that you should PTS now before he has a very undignified end.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:15

Hoppinggreen · 12/05/2025 10:12

I think you need to PTS now.

Oh. Thanks for your thoughts. That's much more upsetting than I was expecting. I thought I'd be more pragmatic!

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Nannyfannybanny · 12/05/2025 10:15

I would have a chat with your vet
Frankly I would say it's time
.I had exactly this with a dog who was PTS January 23, he was almost 18 and suffering from CCD
.I only ever had one cat die ", naturally" . she was a lot younger than yours,lost half her bodyweight in a week,it was kidney failure.
.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 12/05/2025 10:16

PTS sounds like the kindest option from what you've said.

Nannyfannybanny · 12/05/2025 10:16

I am sorry I forgot to offer condolences for your mum 💐

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:17

Nannyfannybanny · 12/05/2025 10:15

I would have a chat with your vet
Frankly I would say it's time
.I had exactly this with a dog who was PTS January 23, he was almost 18 and suffering from CCD
.I only ever had one cat die ", naturally" . she was a lot younger than yours,lost half her bodyweight in a week,it was kidney failure.
.

Yes, kidneys is the other thing that came up on my search.

Thank you.

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/05/2025 10:17

It's worth a tenner or so on an Uber to get him seen. It's cheaper than a standard vet visit to euthanise - and thyroid medication is very, very cheap if that's what is the problem.

Just because previous pets have suffered, it doesn't mean he has to.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:22

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/05/2025 10:17

It's worth a tenner or so on an Uber to get him seen. It's cheaper than a standard vet visit to euthanise - and thyroid medication is very, very cheap if that's what is the problem.

Just because previous pets have suffered, it doesn't mean he has to.

Absolutely, I would find the money for a few visits for sure. I'll get in touch with PDSA now. Friends have said that medication is expensive, but I should find out from the vet directly rather than just worry about the worst case scenario!

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Hoppinggreen · 12/05/2025 10:25

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:15

Oh. Thanks for your thoughts. That's much more upsetting than I was expecting. I thought I'd be more pragmatic!

Apologies if I was too blunt, I appreciate that its more difficult as you inherited the cat from your late mum BUT I have had cats for years and loved every one very much. I have left PTS too late a few times in the past and won't now.
Its a much more peaceful process than you think, I was with my last cat and it was very quick and handled very sensitively by the vet

Bibbitybobbitybo · 12/05/2025 10:26

If they can't help I'd try some other local pet charities. You'll have the comfort of knowing you've tried, and they have experience that could identify the problem or likely outcomes anyway.

However this goes, what matters is that you've given him a loving home to live out his days in and a second chance when you both lost your mum.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:32

Hoppinggreen · 12/05/2025 10:25

Apologies if I was too blunt, I appreciate that its more difficult as you inherited the cat from your late mum BUT I have had cats for years and loved every one very much. I have left PTS too late a few times in the past and won't now.
Its a much more peaceful process than you think, I was with my last cat and it was very quick and handled very sensitively by the vet

No need to apologise. I'm not averse to a bit of plain speaking. It was just interesting how quick I was to tear up when confronted with the actuality. It's kind of reassured me that I'm not a cat-killing monster!

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MiniLeopardInTheHouse · 12/05/2025 10:33

If you would really struggle to afford transport to the PDSA and feel able to post your area OP, it might be that someone could suggest a local cat charity with volunteers who may help you with transport or a local Litter Tray MNetter may be able to give you a lift themselves.

Zeitumschaltung · 12/05/2025 10:36

It sounds like it's time to PTS. They go downhill fast in the end. If you post on a neighbourhood FB group explaining the situation there may be someone making the journey you need or otherwise happy to help.

catcatissues · 12/05/2025 10:36

I would get him seen once, have a good chat with the vet and go from there
i was in a similar situation and PTSD a little early to avoid any suffering or 3am rushing to the vet with him in pain and I’ve never regretted it
the vet said I had done absolutely the right thing as that was his best day and he was only going to get worse from now on

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 10:53

@catcatissues @MiniLeopardInTheHouse @Zeitumschaltung

Thanks for your responses. I've just filled out the PDSA registration form, which has typically not uploaded my ESA document and is demanding I submit it without offering me a button to repeat the process 🙄, so I'm going to call them again and wait in the queue.

I really appreciate all your responses. Thank you x

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itsonlyjoan · 12/05/2025 11:37

My cat was pts 23rd dec he was losing fur also very skinny also he was 12 iv just lost my 3 month puppy I had for 10 days he somehow caught parvovirus totally broken 2 weeks on from loosing ny dog I had for 10 days thinking of you btw check if pdsa r taking on new animals

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/05/2025 11:43

itsonlyjoan · 12/05/2025 11:37

My cat was pts 23rd dec he was losing fur also very skinny also he was 12 iv just lost my 3 month puppy I had for 10 days he somehow caught parvovirus totally broken 2 weeks on from loosing ny dog I had for 10 days thinking of you btw check if pdsa r taking on new animals

Oh, bless you. We do pay a high price for loving our pets x

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longtompot · 12/05/2025 21:56

In our experience the medication to treat hyperthyroidism isn't that expensive but the constant blood tests were. We had to change vets as the previous one refused to prescribe any more of the Vidalta our old boy was on without having yet another bt. All his previous ones were steady and he wasn't displaying any symptoms to say he was struggling.

NotDarkGothicMama · 12/05/2025 22:00

Agreed with everyone else: it's time. He's had a grand old life and deserves to die with dignity. Sorry OP 💐

sweetkitty · 12/05/2025 22:11

Oh OP I feel for you but the old saying “better a day too early than a day too late”

Ive had to have a fair few animals PTS the last one my beloved dog last year she had bone cancer in her face. She was in 5 painkillers in the end but was still eating. The growth was getting so big it was ready to burst so instead of it doing that and it all being horrible, she died peacefully on me eating. Never regretted it.

Think of it as the last kind thing we can do for our pets (and your Mum)

Spendysis · 12/05/2025 22:12

Sorry for the loss of your dm. I think it's time to pts and I say that as an animal lover who has had to make that heartbreaking decision with cats and dogs numerous times

DiaryofWimpy · 13/05/2025 18:41

Give PDSA a call. When I had cats one needed to see a vet I am also on ESA and they paid the taxi fare to go see them and I paid the other half of the journey. It does however sound like he needs to be PTS. So sorry op

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