I have to let my look what I found go don’t I?

[EachandEveryone]

I’m in tears writing this. U may remember I found a 6 week kitten under a car down the back last year. Not unusual but had clearly been looked after she was loud 😀😀 twenty minutes later we found her sister. My dear friend took one (beautiful massive house big garden sadly busy road) I kept mine (London flat rough area massive busy road buy back way no moving traffic) cannot get out front. All was good.

I have two of my own and several strays.

i have cancer and I’m fighting it I’ve just been rushed into hospital with a massive bleed femoral artery was at home on my own. I could’ve died luckily I have my nurse training and I’m also a stubborn Buggar. Anyway my friend has been going to the flat and neighbour is helping. I have been sent a letter. I can’t do no can I?

That’s so sweet. I think you probably do need to let her go, knowing she will be so loved.

I think you should let her go and I wish you all the very best.

Aww. I’m so sorry you’re going through a tough time. Hope you’re on the mend.

I think you need to be realistic in what you can and can’t cope with. If you have several cats and your treatment is taking a lot of your time, it could be for the best but only you can make that decision. If you can totally cope and want to keep the cat then that is also okay.

I think it is a little cheeky to get a kid to write a letter though. It’s a little emotional blackmail as it’s so hard to say no to a child with cute handwriting, than it would be to an adult who text you the offer.

This is her posh sister. She has a lovely 1940’s house it’s just the car parking is down the side and that’s what can’t be blocked off. I’m trying to tell myself they will keep each other company and won’t want to go around the front. She is not the BH she’s the moggy beautiful.

It was my dear friend she’s bonded with her whilst she’s been looking after the others and she’s right thd big fatties just sleep all day the baby needs playing with she has two gentle children two hamsters gold fish rabbits etc they are animal people.

If you honestly think she’ll have a better life then that’s a lovely thing to do. Your other cats will probably be grateful for the peace too! Hope your treatment isn’t too gruelling and sending you unMumsnetty ((hugs))

Why do you need to let her go? You're unwell and having a hard time, sure. But if this cat is the joy in a tough time, why would you let her go?

Just because a child writes a cutesy note doesn't make it a summons. I'd write back and say something along the lines of "I'm so glad to hear that you love Kiki. It means a lot to me to know people are looking out for her. At the moment, she brightens my day and is my motivation for getting home, which I hope to do soon. You're always very welcome to come visit".

The great thing is that you know your friend will take her in at any time you ask her to, if things become too much. It's your decision when that time is.

Thats a great post Persephone

Absolutely this.

Sending hugs.

This. It’s quite manipulative to let a child write a note like that to you whilst you’re ill.

Agree with the others and Persephone’s post, you don’t need to let your cat go if you don’t want to. As innocent as the child’s letter may have been intended, this is your cat and you’re only in need of someone to care for your cat while in hospital and don’t feel like you have to say yes just because it is a child’s request.
also from the cat’s perspective, it’ll be a change of home, of humans, toys etc, if the choice to rehome isn’t yours, you don’t need to rehome

No it’s not I know my friend and she had already suggested it and I was already thinking of it. This is my second hospital admission this year. So I think about my cats a lot. We have suggested fostering her for now but we all know what that means.

I have my two. I have five toe ginger who’s moved in from outside. I have a boy tabby from the street who has his own routine opens the door. Let’s himself in for bed and food. I have five outside I feed with the neighbour.

i wonder about dying all the time and who would have them.

i love Kiki so much I mean I think we can see how she likes it there while I’m in?

I very near lost my leg last night so these aren’t just normal things I have going on. My cats are my life though.

@thecatneuterer can you give me your perspective you know me and my set up x

Funny how they only want the kitten and not willing to take on your other cats. Don’t make a rash decision yet. I think the letter was emotional blackmail sorry. They know you’re ill and they know you love the cats. Is there anyone else that could look after them for a while or Atleast help.

Because they have her sister! We found them dumped down my back way.

Hmm tricky one. I do agree that is does seem like emotional blackmail a bit. But if you genuinely don’t think it is then that’s different. I suppose it depends on how much time you are likely to spend In hospital, and how the cat would cope with you being away.

Cats I have five she slots in with the others she’s ok either way. It’s not the hospital as much it’s the at home having to bend all the time feeding them litter trays wiping up after them then playing with her. I have a cleaner who helps I have to put the dear baby first, and I do love her she feisty

I would let her go. She’ll love being reunited with her sister. You have enough on your plate and don’t know whether you’ll be able to manage longer term (sorry I hope you will of course). If you think it’s a genuine kind offer not a manipulative request then I would take it.

if she’s with your friend you can still see her plenty

If you think you are well enough to look after her for now then I would keep hold of her. Cats are very special and they will keep you going.

It’s not to say that you won’t let her go and live with your friend but maybe not yet. You’ll know when the time is right. I don’t think it’s yet.

The big animal charities like Blue Cross and Cats Protection will help if you want to rehome to due to illness or bereavement. You could ring them for a chat or if you want to future the care of your furries.

I’m sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It sounds really tough for you.

I’d contemplate letting go via fostering. You know that you can carry on visiting and siblings reunited sounds adorable. I think it’s maybe not a question of what is best for you but what is best for the cat.

I don’t think you should give your cat away because you are unwell. She’s not a horse that you have to tend to at 5am, cats are resilient and she’s your cat.

OP, I don't think you want to let her go. There's no guarantee she'll recognise her sibling or that they'll even get on.
Whilst you can still care for your cats then keep them. If you're sharing feeding some others then can that person help you out if needed? It's the wrong time to be making a bug decision like this. Esp when you're vulnerable, being unwell and most likely emotional.
Don't let a child's letter sway your decision. Tbh that was a pretty low bar for someone to agree for them to send you that letter no matter who's idea it was in the first place.
Sending you a unmumsnetty hug.

You are a beautiful soul.