Im so sad about this situation with my cat and not sure what to do next. I have 2 cats and a dog. The cats were here first, but when the dog was first introduced all was fine for a couple of years and all got along fine. I have also recently started renting a room to students so house is quite busy.
During the last year, one of the cats started visiting my neighbour more and more. The neighbour feeds her and doesn’t do anything to prevent her getting in. The neighbour has a cat and a cat flap that’s a micro chip one, but my cat has worked out how to get in anyway. I have offered to replace the cat flap to see if that would stop her but neighbour has declined. I have asked neighbour not to feed her and given her permission to chase her out but she won’t. Neighbour is a single lady with a quiet household which I believe my cat prefers. She does have another older cat (which she has admitted was also another neighbour’s originally!)
I have tried to keep my cat in to try to get her used to this being her home, but she’s very distressed when kept in. When we have students, the cat has been known to wee on their beds if the door was left open.
In the last 6months I basically haven’t had my cat in my house, she’s totally chosen to stay away. I’ve seen her in the garden occasionally for dreamies and flea treatment.
Im very upset that my cat doesn’t want to be here, but don’t want to force her to be somewhere she’s unhappy. And Im cross with the neighbour who seems to be collecting other peoples cats. I’m not sure what to do for the best. Re home her? Sign her over to the neighbour or stay as we are ?