Rehoming Siamese cats

[Elisabeth3468]

We have come to the decision to rehome our Siamese cats.
I feel immensely guilty but cannot cope with them anymore.
i never thought I'd have children due to fertility issues so got two Siamese cats. They are extremely needy and loving but require so much attention otherwise they become distructive.
fast forward 4 years and I have a 3 yo and a newborn.
one of the cats In particular (the one that is very attached to me) is very jealous and wees on the babies things , including her pushchair.
They have broken all the door handles off in the house because they jump at them to get outside. Front door handle is also hanging on by a thread.
one of them gets into cat fights and has already cost us time and money in vet bills! Who knew it would cost £900 to stitch a paw up??
They are insured luckily but it keeps going up! Steeply.
They cause me so much stress and I feel like I don't have the time to dedicate for them any more.
it breaks my heart because they are lovely animals but It's really affecting us now as a family. The amount of things we've had to replace because of them as well. Eg shitting on the duvet and weeing.
yes they've been checked At vets and perfectly healthy, it's all behavioural.
anyone been in similar situation ? I feel so conflicted because I know I'll miss them and potentially have more time for them as my kids grow up. They are also very gentle and tolerant with my toddler.

Suggest either contact their breeder or the UK Siamese cat club ask for welfare coordinator. They will sort you out and advise. Siamese are notoriously highly strung but they might be fine in a different environment.

We had a lot of experience with cats and my nan was a breeder of Siamese but we still had to re-home one of her kittens who took over the house. He was fine in new family.

I’d suggest contacting the Siamese Cat Welfare Trust:

siameserescue.org.uk

You've tried all you can, sounds like rehoming may be the best option x

They are unhappy and it’s probably the kindest thing to do.

Have you tried all the stuff like a feliway plug in in every room / shutting them in a particular room overnight / when you go out etc so they can’t get to bedding etc to pee on it? You could wrap door handles in foil, most cats absolutely hate foil and will avoid it… etc etc.

If you’ve tried all of this then contact rescues like Blue Cross etc. I don’t think they’ll have any difficulty rehoming them, the breed is very sought after.

I agree with the advice to contact their breeder in the first instance. All good breeders will ask you contact them if things go wrong and you can no longer keep them. If the breeder can't/wont help, contact the breed club.

The cats are obviously not happy, and it should be relatively easy to find them a new home.

I sympathise as I have oriental cats and I know what a PITA they can be if you don't offer them the exact type of home they need.

Having said all that, you say they have broken door handles trying to get out. Are they indoor cats? If so my first thought would be to let them go out, as orientals kept indoors are likely to spray and make a general nuisance of themselves. If you live on a busy road and can't let them out, rehoming is definitely the way to go.

Hey.
They were indoor cats for a year but we let them out in the garden In the summer and they got the taste for outdoors so they go out daily now and have for a few years. They love the outdoors but it can be dangerous for them but I can't stop them because they become destructive.
I am in touch with the breeder and she's more than happy to take them off my hands.
just feel so conflicted because I really love them and feel like as my kids grow up I will have more time for them.
they are still very loved and well cared for of course! I just can't sit for hours fussing them

Thank you for your reply. Yes I agree it can be dangerous for them outside, especially because oriental cats are so nosy and adventurous, I often think it's like having pet monkeys! But as you say, they go stir crazy if kept inside.

I can completely understand how you feel. They are lovely cats but they can be very hard work. It's great the breeder will help you out, so you know you have options. I suppose you have to think about doing what is best for all of you - your family, and the cats. Take a bit more time to think about it.

To be honest, I agree, I think you probably should rehome them. Preferably by going back to the breeder and if nto that, a breed specific rescue. They really aren't like ordinary moggies. I have a rescue who is mostly Oriental, surrendered by her first owner because they couldn't cope with her - in addition to having all the personality and brains of an Oriental, she has multiple allergies. I WFH and have no children and even doing everything by the book she was the single hardest cat I've ever integrated and one night I almost brought her back. She loved me passionately on sight, but as soon as she realized she lived here she wanted to fight my other cat for the territory. It took a lot of work, and money, and duplicating resources and putting them everywhere. She has now decided that they are sisters, and gives her lots of grooming and affection, but she's still very dominant and prone to jealousy. Its a good job my moggie is the opposite personality, and is patient and submissive by nature. Dominant cats groom their submissives, and Oriental girl will stand over her grooming her in a very firm, deliberate way. Luckily the moggie enjoys this and will even extend her head for more; another dominant cat would be a disaster. Oriental also bites. I would say please don't just take them to a shelter. They need someone who understands the Siamese/Oriental personality.