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Aggressive cat behaviour - how to handle?

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Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 16:01

I need some advice from wiser cat owners than myself.

About a year and a half ago I adopted a three year old longhaired lovely cat. He has generally settled in well to our home. He likes to roam about outside in the garden mostly at night and generally sleeps inside in the days. When he is settled on a bed he loves a stroke and he purrs and seems very relaxed. He is not one for sitting on knees really, but he does do occasionally (my knee only). We seem to have bonded well on the face of it. He loves his food. He likes being in the same room as us inside.

My problem though is when we are both in the garden at the same time. There have been quite a few occasions where I've gone outside and, if he is out there, he just launches himself at my legs with claws out and tries to bite me. He gets this wild look in his eyes and just seems like a wild animal. The first time happened when it was dark and I wondered if it was because I was in "his" territory and it was unusual for him (we had gone outside to look for a meteor shower that night). I put it down to it being a change in his routine. But its carried on at other times too.

He has long sharp claws and is a big cat, and its painful when he does it. This morning I'd gone to stand out in the garden with a cup of coffee first thing in the morning and he did it again and actually drew blood on my legs. Perhaps it was because he wanted to be fed first...and was cross I was drinking coffee and not feeding him perhaps?

I don't know how to respond to it. On instinct I usually push him off, shriek and run off, or grab the nearest thing like a garden chair to hold in front of me to keep him away from my legs while I back into the house. He did it again this afternoon and I pushed him away and shouted "NO!" and ran inside.

I have a 6 year old daughter and he has on occasion tried to do similar to her, but I have intervened before he reached her, but I feel like I have to be on red alert when she is in the garden with him, and with the weather being nicer now I just want to be able to go in and out of the house when I want without worrying about being attacked by the cat.

I wondered if its just like...young cat behaviour? Like rough and tumble type stuff? But he's nearly 4 now so I would have thought that would have calmed down by now?

I wondered if it was associated with him being hungry (he has a big appetite and always seems hungry, and like I said above it happened this morning before I had fed him), but I worry about overfeeding him in an attempt to keep him happy at all times, and that seems the wrong way to approach it.

I am getting to the stage where I'm scared of my own cat now. I feel really sad about it because he seems so loving and docile at other times, and we generally have a good bond. But it just seems like specifically the garden is a problem area for him. Any advice?

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Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 16:04

P.s can't seem to attach his photo!

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LovelyJubly12 · 08/03/2025 16:51

Take a bottle with a spray top filled with water out with you. As soon as he starts showing any sign of aggression squirt him and say NO ! Very firmly. Keep doing it until he stops. Do it every time.

littleluncheon · 08/03/2025 16:53

Does sound like overboard playing, my cat similarly loved attacking feet when it was a kitten.
If it's just in the garden that it's a problem, could you call him in to feed before you go out?

Mia184 · 08/03/2025 16:55

LovelyJubly12 · 08/03/2025 16:51

Take a bottle with a spray top filled with water out with you. As soon as he starts showing any sign of aggression squirt him and say NO ! Very firmly. Keep doing it until he stops. Do it every time.

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Before trying that, I would have a laser pointer or some feathery dangling toy with me when going into the garden and try to redirect the aggression. If it is play aggression, it should work.

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2025 16:59

Sounds like my 18 months old.
We've always had cats so to get a biting scratching kitten was a shock.
He bit my adult dcs and DH but mostly myself.
I handle it by lots of playtime with balls and stick toys morning and evening.
I have noticed a great improvement although he will bite me if he is overstimulated or hungry.
I would love to see a picture if you manage one.
Oh yes and sometimes I purposely wear a thick coat and cover my hands and rough and tumble with him as he actually likes the fight.

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2025 17:01

--Here he is

Aggressive cat behaviour - how to handle?
Mia184 · 08/03/2025 17:49

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2025 17:01

--Here he is

He is gorgeous!

Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:30

Mia184 · 08/03/2025 16:46

Could it be play aggression? Jackson Galaxy has a great video on that: 3

Thank you, I'll have a watch of that

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Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:30

LovelyJubly12 · 08/03/2025 16:51

Take a bottle with a spray top filled with water out with you. As soon as he starts showing any sign of aggression squirt him and say NO ! Very firmly. Keep doing it until he stops. Do it every time.

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Good idea - I think I will keep a bottle by the door to remind me to take it out.

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Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:32

Mia184 · 08/03/2025 16:55

Before trying that, I would have a laser pointer or some feathery dangling toy with me when going into the garden and try to redirect the aggression. If it is play aggression, it should work.

Good idea. Maybe keep some cat toys by the door and arm myself with them

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Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:36

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2025 16:59

Sounds like my 18 months old.
We've always had cats so to get a biting scratching kitten was a shock.
He bit my adult dcs and DH but mostly myself.
I handle it by lots of playtime with balls and stick toys morning and evening.
I have noticed a great improvement although he will bite me if he is overstimulated or hungry.
I would love to see a picture if you manage one.
Oh yes and sometimes I purposely wear a thick coat and cover my hands and rough and tumble with him as he actually likes the fight.

That's good to know I'm not alone! I will try and increase play time with him. I must admit, I largely leave him to it as he seems happy to just chill out / sleep in the house and then I assumed he was getting his play time exploring at night. But adding in some structured play / attention might help, yes. Maybe I should get one of those leather gauntlet gloves!

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user1471548941 · 08/03/2025 19:39

I have a ginger who absolutely gets play aggression!

It's like he can't work out for himself when he needs to play/burn off energy (he's very very lazy!) so will just randomly attack when he gets overwhelmed.

We did 2 things:

  1. Routine play time, 10 mins 3 x a day at roughly similar times. Also recognising that he's A LOT worse when hungry so generally we do play before food with fixed meal times.
  1. Got another cat! DCat2 is a lunatic and gives him a taste of his own medicine which seems to have taught him a lot about manners! It also means that they play together which is very sweet, much more natural and means they play spontaneously.
Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:41

Thank you all for your suggestions, I take them all on board and will try them out. Here he is, the whopper.

Aggressive cat behaviour - how to handle?
Aggressive cat behaviour - how to handle?
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goodnightssleepbenice · 08/03/2025 19:49

Our cat is like that, he is 4 now . He lies in wait and then attacks for no reason at all , he's an absolute delight , not what I thought having a cat would be like at all !

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:28

Please don't spray him in the face with water.

LovelyJubly12 · 08/03/2025 20:42

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:28

Please don't spray him in the face with water.

Why?

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:43

@LovelyJubly12 because it's unkind and totally unnecessary. How would you like to be sprayed in the face with water?

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2025 20:45

What a beautiful cat 😊

Mia184 · 08/03/2025 21:40

Bimblebombles · 08/03/2025 19:41

Thank you all for your suggestions, I take them all on board and will try them out. Here he is, the whopper.

What a stunner!

abricotine · 08/03/2025 23:14

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:43

@LovelyJubly12 because it's unkind and totally unnecessary. How would you like to be sprayed in the face with water?

Perhaps you could offer some helpful advice to OP to resolve the issue, rather than criticising that offered in a helpful spirit by others?

littleluncheon · 09/03/2025 00:34

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:43

@LovelyJubly12 because it's unkind and totally unnecessary. How would you like to be sprayed in the face with water?

The whole point is to do something the cat doesn't like. How would you like to be attacked whenever you go in your garden?

tortietimestwo · 09/03/2025 00:43

I echo other poster who said don't spray the cat. This is commonly given as advice, but all it does it confuse and stress the cat and give a negative association to his interactions with you. Much better to use a positive like play to redirect and then give a treat to reinforce. If you play with hin and he doesn't attack, treat. Repeat.

He obviously wants to play and it sounds like redirecting is the way to go, wand toys are brilliant to give them something to hunt.

whatisforteamum · 09/03/2025 05:17

I agree don't spray.
The vet told me to blow in his face when biting as it makes them let go.
Cat bites can become infected.

biscuitsandbooks · 09/03/2025 07:43

@littleluncheon spraying an attacking animal in the face with water can often make the situation even worse.

@abricotine my advice was just not to spray an animal in the face. Of course being attacked isn't very nice but you can easily avoid that by bringing the cat inside first, or using toys as a distraction.