Hi! We got a new rescue cat in September, we were told that he was probably better suited to a female household but as we were experienced cat owners, he’d probably learn to tolerate DH.
Apparently, he was a bit hissy and baffy, but no claws, really good with other cats. Very food oriented. He’s a stray, 2 or 3 years old, so no history.
They’d had him for a few months, no takers, we needed another cat (our quorum is 3) … so we took him.
After 3 days hiding in his igloo in the dining room he wanted out, so we gave him freedom of the house (cat-flap excepted). All as promised/warned he’s brilliant with our two older cats, utterly respectful. Greedy as hell - he’s been in the food waste bin and has tipped the main bin over twice, he’ll thieve of the work surface when we’re cooking if you turn your back for a second, quite partial to butter, jam and marmalade if you’re making toast!
After 3 days of freedom he decided that DH is his best friend, of an evening the only place he wants to be is DH’s armpit! He follows him around like a dog. Lots of head bumps.
SO, 4 months in, he and DH are having the biggest bromance, meanwhile he avoids me, hisses and occasionally baffs at me, even when I’m feeding him. I can stroke him when he’s close to DH but rarely otherwise. He does not hiss at men, but any female is fair game, he’s got my cleaner trained… her first action is always to raid the Dreamies for him.
He doesn’t seem scared of women, ie doesn’t run away, he just seems to plain not like them.
I’ve run out of ideas, I talk to him, blink at him, feed him, give him treats and stroke him when I can.
Anyone got any ideas, or is he just a bastard cat?
Photo of Rocky attached as per the rules.