Is it normal to have a preferred cat

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We have two beautiful tabbies, (first time cat owners here) - the cats are litter siblings, they're only just two years old and they're both lovely but I have to admit I prefer the boy cat compared to the girl cat!
I feel terrible admitting this. I would have thought you have cats, you love cats (I love cats) and that's the end of it.

Our boy cat literally purrs as soon as he sees you, gives you the big eyes, sits on my lap, loves a stroke etc, but our girl cat doesn't really purr so much, she doesn't seem to like being touched! They're from the same litter. I'm surprised they're so different.

I'm having cat ownership guilt and feel like I should give the girl cat more treats or something to make her happier but if she's not interested should I just leave her to it...

I have a preferred cat but mine are 5 and 1 so at different stages.

I love them both dearly, but yes we do have a preferred cat. That being said, one wees on the floor and is less cuddly, more aloof (the latter is not something we mind..) I reckon we won't be judged for having a preferred cat when you know this😃

Perfectly normal. Even parents, when being truthful, admit they have a favourite child.

I adore both my current cats, but will admit that it's much easier to get on with Girlcat who never growls, hisses, bites, even threatens to scratch. Who loves her belly rubs (when she feels like it), sits and stares at me for ages. Whereas Tobias is still an untrusting cat who is scared, lashes out, has only recently started to enjoy any attention etc. Doesn't mean I don't love him deeply of course.

I think its perfectly normal to have a preferred cat if you have more than one. Some cat personalities suit some human personalities better than others, its the same with people, you don't feel guilty for having a best friend do you? Doesn't mean you think less of your other friends, its just that there's a person you gel with better than others.

I love both my cats, but one is much easier to love whereas one is very unpredictable -bitey and aggressive.

Yes totally normal

My brother and I are from the same litter, as it were, and yet we are drastically different in personality, interests.

Why any different with siblings from any other species?!

I love both my cats but my boy cat is so much more affectionate that it's him a feel closet too.

Often boy cats are more affectionate

I just have one cat and luckily he's the best one.

I think it's natural to be more fond of an animal that is more affectionate and seems to like you more. When I was little we had two brother cats and one was a much nicer, friendlier cat so of course he was our favourite. When he died his brother, who had been very aloof, became the friendliest cat ever! So it wasn't his personality exactly, more the dynamics of a multi cat household, and I don't think this is uncommon.

(I absolutely do not have a favourite child though, and I've got two of those - my love for them is completely unconditional).

My cats are brothers. One loves me and one loves DH. ‘My’ cat follows me around until I sit down so he can sit on my lap every possible minute of the day (like right now). ‘DH’s’ cat is very playful and corners DH several times a day for a play session. DH has the scratches to show for it.
So I think it’s ok to have a favourite cat, as they’re not shy about showing their human favouritism.

Oh definitely. Fortunately, our preferred cats also appear to have a preference....MY cat definitely loves me more than the other cat.

Here's madam on my partner's lap and my boy lazing on the bed with me.....

But I do love them both!!!

I did have but worked very hard not to. It worked as I really valued the relationship I had with the quiet cat as I'd had to put so much effort in.

Now I wish my cats both didn't have the same favourite human - me. DH does all the cat care but no, they'd rather fight over who gets to sit on my lap than compromise and sit on his.

Thanks for your replies ☺️

I do love girl cat but maybe she just doesn't like me as much ! She's beautiful, perfectly "polite" never aggressive or anything, but she's just not as affectionate as her brother

Of course!

But which is the favourite can change as they get older. The standoffish one can become friendly and cuddly, the snuggly one can decide to prefer some space.

You may find that her behaviour changes as she gets older. Often laps are not discovered as being warm and comfortable until their middle age and then they demand to be allowed to sit on them.

We have 4 cats. I find it difficult to identify which is my favourite but I do know who is my least favourite. He’s a generally good natured cat but he is a bit of a bully towards the others to get the best spot on the sofa or because he’s hungry or bored. He would be perfect as an only cat but he’s not so he gets told off and put in time out (the hall) a lot.

I've had about 30 cats. There are particular ones that stand out two boys one girl.

I found the boys much more affectionate the girls judge 😂

We had two sisters, one outgoing and one quiet. We knew the outgoing one bullied the quiet one but worked hard to mitigate it.

The outgoing one died first. Truly it was the happiest day of the quiet sister's life.

Her personality was completely transformed and she spent the rest of her life as a very sociable queen bee.

I have a PFC (Precious First Cat) who is my preferred cat of all cats anywhere ever.