Advice to tell teenager cat being PTS

[Helpinghands23]

Hello,
My beautiful elderly cat of age 20 is clearly coming to the end and I think it’s time for her to be PTS. I have a vets appointment this evening for their advice and to examine her.
My 15 year old daughter loves our old girl more than anything and is currently in denial that the end is near. She keeps saying she will be ok even though I have tried to be realistic with her.
My question is if the decision is made to PTS should I tell my daughter before hand and offer her the chance to say goodbye or would it be kinder to just have it happen and come home and tell her the vet said it was for the best etc.
I want to make it as easy as possible for my daughter and don’t know what will be best. Also not sure I’m thinking clearly as I too will be devastated.
my daughter does know we have a vets appointment but will be at her dads.
thank you

Thank you for your advice and support.
we are taking her to be PTS this afternoon, giving my daughter the morning to cuddle her and say goodbye. 💔

I am sorry its come to this but I am sure you gave her a long and happy life.
I am really glad you are giving your dd time to say goodbye. 💐

I'm so sorry about your cat. You gave her a long and wonderful life.

I would be honest. Being able to say goodbye may bring her some comfort. Having the option of being there may also bring her some comfort. Feeling later that she's been lied to is likely to make it worse - it's not like you can pretend the cat is still alive.

When my last childhood cat died I was in my 30s, so a fully fledged grownup. We knew he wasn't well, but we thought he had some time left and might be treatable. My mum took him to the vet and it became clear that he wasn't going to be allowed home, he had to be PTS pretty much straight away for his own comfort. I was about to go into a work meeting and my mum called me and my brother to tell us. It was hard not having the chance to say goodbye, and that was in a context where noone had tried to hide the truth from us, it was just bad luck. It would have been a lot worse had I only been a teenager.

So sorry @Helpinghands23 💐

I'm so sorry @Helpinghands23. I'm glad you gave your daughter the chance to say goodbye. I hope you are both ok.

To any parents in this situation, please don't keep your children out of the decision. My parents did this and I didn't get a chance to say goodbye, I've never forgotten it even 50 years on.

So sorry, it's never an easy decision to make even when you know it's the only option.