Hi everyone. Posted this in AIBU but was told it would be better here.
cat didn’t have the best start to life and ended up at the RSPCA. We have had him for nearly 5 years and it took a very long time to earn his trust. He still doesn’t trust my partner and runs away from him and doesn’t let him touch him apart from for a few seconds on his terms. I am the only person that he trusts and feels comfortable around.
However that has all changed now. He has a problem with his eye and I have to put this gel in it. It means that one of us has to pick him up and the other do the eye drops. Since doing this, he won’t come anywhere near me and is scared of me. If he sees me he runs away, he spends the day hiding and we have to track him down and find him when it’s time to give him the drops. Things like this really affect him he is such a timid and anxious cat in general and is scared of everything. When I come down in the morning he runs under the table and hides. When I come in from work again he runs away. His pupils are dilated because he’s in a constant state of fear wondering when the next time we will grab him is. I am in tears writing this I hate it. He now lives in a home where he doesn’t trust anyone and is constantly scared. I am worried that this is going to make him ill. But also, is he ever going to trust me again? Is he now constantly going to run away from me? I need some reassurance because I am absolutely heartbroken right now and feel immensely sorry for him. I feel like the worst person in the world and I bet he is confused about why I am doing this. When I put the drops in, he army crawls across the floor to a hiding place, it’s awful to watch. He has got out this morning and I’m worried he won’t come back