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My beautiful boy died

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Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:01

Totally unexpected. He seemed fine this morning; very purry, eating his fish, demanding cheek scratches. Then I was out this afternoon and my daughter came to find me. He'd suddenly lost the use of his back legs and was struggling to breathe and yowling in pain. We rushed him to the emergency vet and they told us it was saddle thrombosis and there was less than 5% chance he'd survive. I had to make the choice between him having lots of tests and treatments and being super stressed, or having him put to sleep. He hates the vets, and is nervous of strangers and I didn't want him to have to go through more of it and more pain so they put him to sleep there and then.
I don't know how I'm going to manage without him. I know that sounds dramatic but we've had an awful few years and he's been such a comfort. My eldest has quite severe mental health problems and he always managed to sooth them. My dad died, my youngest has been ill with anorexia, and I've had cancer, but he was always there, loving and beautiful and constant. How am I going to cope?

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TheShellBeach · 21/09/2024 23:04

I'm so sorry. What an awful shock.
You did absolutely the right thing, having him put to sleep.
How old was he? We've had a lot of cats pts and it's always desperately sad.

Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:08

Thanks @TheShellBeach . I'm just sitting here and I can't take it in. He was 6. I love him so much.

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Whoknowswhatanymore · 21/09/2024 23:09

You’ve done the right thing. Please remember that. He loved you as much as you loved him. He will be forever in your heart. My heart breaks for you at this sad time xx

Lonelycrab · 21/09/2024 23:12

Hug to you. You did the right thing, hard as it is to doFlowers

LlestriBranwen · 21/09/2024 23:12

I'm so sorry

OkPedro · 21/09/2024 23:14

Oh I am so sorry for your loss @Ilmiopinguino 😔 What is your beautiful boys name?
It doesn't sound ridiculous. You loved him and he loved you. He was a member of your family

LancashireSquirrel · 21/09/2024 23:15

I'm so sorry 😞

Growlybear83 · 21/09/2024 23:15

I'm so sorry. What a terrible shock for you, and at such a young age. Sadly I think you definitely made the only decision you could, given the vet's diagnosis.

Emdubz70 · 21/09/2024 23:15

So sorry 😢 he was only young and it was unexpected which is a massive shock on top of everything. You did what was best for him though because you loved him. Keep reminding yourself of this when it feels difficult.
All the cats I’ve had over the years have seen me through some difficult times in my life and we really feel their absence don’t we? They give us so much and ask for little in return but this was one thing you could do for him, keep him free of any further pain or stress.
As the saying goes, better a day too early than a day too late.
Sending you a hug x

Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:17

@OkPedro Milo, also known as Little Man, Boy and Baby.

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Mygosh · 21/09/2024 23:17

I'm so sorry for your loss. Try to remember the good times. You gave your boy a lovely life with all the love he needed.

My cat was 11 when this happened to her. It's just awful.

Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:22

@Mygosh I'm so sorry this happened to your cat too. None of it feels real. I keep expecting him to jump up on the bed.

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Welshmonster · 21/09/2024 23:24

Massive hugs. I have a cat now and my old girl was out to sleep for being old as having old cat issues. It’s awful to go in with a cat and leave with empty box.

check your pet insurance as often they have bereavement counsellors you can call.

OkPedro · 21/09/2024 23:26

Rip Milo 😔

Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:28

@Welshmonster thank you, I'll check.

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CeruleanDive · 21/09/2024 23:30

Oh @Ilmiopinguino, what a terrible shock, and with so much else to cope with. It sounds very hard. I'm so sorry.

You or your family might find the Cats Protection helpline good to know about: www.cats.org.uk/what-we-do/grief?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACxVXb8YtUlTuy1uw5PnFrMUOii8v

smallbluethings · 21/09/2024 23:32

I am so sorry for your loss. They leave such a hole when they go. He was a lucky boy to have been so loved by you and your family. Rest in peace dear puss. 💗

ThirstyThursday · 21/09/2024 23:35

Oh im so sorry, so unexpected, especially when he was only 6. 🐾

LessOfMe99 · 21/09/2024 23:35

I lost my precious girl to this too. She was one of the 5% who lived initially and I was extremely lucky to have her for almost 9 more months. Each day, knowing it could be the last. I had to learn to give her a tablet every day. But I know I was really lucky to have that extra time with her. She died 3 years ago and I still miss her very much. She was my soul cat.
Sending you lots of hugs op. I hope your boy is playing with my girl over the rainbow bridge 🌈

Ilmiopinguino · 21/09/2024 23:45

@LessOfMe99 Thank you, I hope they are too.

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IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 21/09/2024 23:45

I am so very very sorry.Please understand you made the very right choice and he would thank you for that.x

Prescottdanni123 · 21/09/2024 23:46

I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is always horrible but when it happens suddenly and unexpectedly it's such a shock as well.

Els1e · 21/09/2024 23:53

So sorry to read about Milo. You did the right thing though and loved him to give him release. I still miss my last cat, Eric, even though he was a bit of a b.....Big hugs

Pudmyboy · 22/09/2024 00:04

So very sorry to hear about Milo (which I always think stands for My Love), what a terrible shock, what a horrible day for you all. When you are ready I hope you can begin to remember the good times, and that he was ill for less than a day and you were with him till the end. They do act as little anchors in our lives, my little love was there for two family bereavements and his little purring soft self helped me cope.
Sending unMumsnetty hugs to you all 💐

Noseybookworm · 22/09/2024 00:04

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 it's heartbreaking to lose a beloved companion. You did the right thing and he is out of pain and at peace. He had a good life with you, being loved and cared for so well. I hope in time his memory will be a blessing. Sending you gentle hugs 💐

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