Honest opinions please!

[Ohmycarrots]

I have three children - one has various disabilities and aggressive outbursts.
I had a cat a few years back and everyone loved her and she enjoyed the children's company.
When she passed I was absolutely heartbroken and now I'm ready for a new one.
I'm hesitant, though. Old cat watched dear children grow up so was used to the behaviours but new cat will be thrown in the deep end.
It's not fair for a cat, is it?

My nephew is autistic and nonverbal and although he's not violent at all (he's actually very gentle and loving) he moves in a way and makes noises that animals find alarming.

SIL adopted an adult cat about 10 years ago and he's still terrified of nephew. He won't be in the same room as him.

I don't know if he has a terrible life, really, as he always has somewhere he can go to get away and frankly nephew pays him no attention at all so he's not being chased or anything. But I always feel a little bit sorry for him as he can't fully relax in his own home.

Perhaps a kitten would be better able to adapt than an adult cat?

You could get a cat or kitten that is confident and isn't bothered by outbursts or you could get a cat that is terrified and timid.

Sadly, you won't know until you get the cat.

We adopted our lovely girl cat from a home where they had a little boy who was very loud and boisterous (no additional needs, just a regular bouncy three year old) and it was making her really stressed. They’d had her from before having kids - as a kitten - but they rehomed her to somewhere quiet for her own good. She had seven happy years with us in a quiet home with a lovely garden, but still jumped at the door bell - a real nervous Nelly around loud noise, although bold in every other way.

We lost her to cancer this year and now have a little ginger boy. I swear you could have a kids party for 50 five-year-olds in his bed and he would just dance along.

So yeah, depends on the cat.

What about a confident kitten or young cat from a rescue who can be assessed properly before coming home?

Not all cats are nervous or bothered by loud noises and unexpected movements.

@Judystilldreamsofhorses I read that post and knew it would be you before checking the poster's name!

OP, maybe consider adopting an adult cat, you can tell a lot more about their character once out if the kitten/teen stages

I'd go to an adoption centre like CPL and sonic there's a cat who is able to cope. I have 2 ND children, one is ADHD and lLOVES the cats but they get a bit 🙀 at times, the third cat is his favourite and she is so good with him

Did the bit about dancing give it away? 😂