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Just buried my cat 😢

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GorgeousLadyofWrestling · 17/09/2024 20:03

My cat was killed by a car on Saturday morning. We had four cats in total and he was the third cat we got. He was 2, we’d had him since he was a baby and we all absolutely adored him.

I'm still somewhat in disbelief, I think. I keep oscillating between shock (why did it have to happen, it’s not fair) and distress (uncontrollable tears, massive lump in my throat).

We have 3 children who could not have loved him more. We picked him up from the vet today and just had a little funeral for him out in the back garden.

He was so special, just a gorgeous sweet soul. My other 3 cats are great and I love them, but he just had a way about him. He’d look deep into you eyes like he was really trying to connect. He would give nose kisses and always just collapsed in front of you, offering up his belly for a rub.

I’ve never had a cat like him, he was just wonderful. DH and I are not religious at all but we were saying it was like he was an angel who gave us so much joy for such a short time. It feels colossally unfair that he’s not here and I would give anything for him to be back with us.

I’ve not lost a cat in this way before. They’ve always died of old age, which is upsetting and there’s a grieving period but this is just horrendous. I have OCD and fixate on things, and I had a panic attack on Sunday night triggered by thinking about his last moments. (I have panic attacks semi frequently and am seeing a therapist so this was not an isolated thing!).

My children seem ok and have written him letters and cried lots, and I am not concerned about their reaction, it all seems very normal. I still feel incredibly upset, just utterly devastated and I keep thinking, he’s not here - why can’t he just come back?

I’m sorry, I think I just needed to get this all out. It’s so raw and painful 😥

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GoldenSunflowers · 17/09/2024 20:04

I’m so sorry. Your poor kitty 🐱

Pudmyboy · 17/09/2024 20:09

I am so sorry for your loss, poor little cat, it is so hard when something happens that you have no control over (the car)....
I am sure it's normal to have times when you cannot help thinking about his last moments, so please be kind to yourself when this happens. I hope your therapy helps, and as you will know, it's okay to grieve for him 💐

Sethera · 17/09/2024 20:14

I'm so sorry, OP. His short time with you sounds so special, for you and him. Flowers

OntheupsoIam · 17/09/2024 20:16

I’m so sorry, he sounds like a wonderful cat who had a very happy life with you.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 17/09/2024 20:28

So sorry OP. I agree with pp that how you are feeling is normal. We had to pts our lovely girl in April - she was ten and had cancer - and just last night I was having a cry because I miss her so much. Cats break your heart but they also bring so much joy 🤍

johnson39 · 17/09/2024 20:30

GorgeousLadyofWrestling · 17/09/2024 20:03

My cat was killed by a car on Saturday morning. We had four cats in total and he was the third cat we got. He was 2, we’d had him since he was a baby and we all absolutely adored him.

I'm still somewhat in disbelief, I think. I keep oscillating between shock (why did it have to happen, it’s not fair) and distress (uncontrollable tears, massive lump in my throat).

We have 3 children who could not have loved him more. We picked him up from the vet today and just had a little funeral for him out in the back garden.

He was so special, just a gorgeous sweet soul. My other 3 cats are great and I love them, but he just had a way about him. He’d look deep into you eyes like he was really trying to connect. He would give nose kisses and always just collapsed in front of you, offering up his belly for a rub.

I’ve never had a cat like him, he was just wonderful. DH and I are not religious at all but we were saying it was like he was an angel who gave us so much joy for such a short time. It feels colossally unfair that he’s not here and I would give anything for him to be back with us.

I’ve not lost a cat in this way before. They’ve always died of old age, which is upsetting and there’s a grieving period but this is just horrendous. I have OCD and fixate on things, and I had a panic attack on Sunday night triggered by thinking about his last moments. (I have panic attacks semi frequently and am seeing a therapist so this was not an isolated thing!).

My children seem ok and have written him letters and cried lots, and I am not concerned about their reaction, it all seems very normal. I still feel incredibly upset, just utterly devastated and I keep thinking, he’s not here - why can’t he just come back?

I’m sorry, I think I just needed to get this all out. It’s so raw and painful 😥

So sorry for your loss, how awful for you 😔

Cajanz · 17/09/2024 20:37

I’m so sorry, it must be heartbreaking to lose such a special cat. I love my cats too and think I would struggle similarly if we lost one in such a horrible way when they are still so young. Sending hugs

WhiskerPatrol · 17/09/2024 20:42

So sorry for your loss. I have been there and understand.

Debtfreeme · 17/09/2024 20:42

I’m so sorry to hear this, you cat was so loved. Are you able to share some photos with us in your own time and please tell us any story’s about him. Grief is the price we pay for love ❤️❤️❤️❤️

SallyWD · 17/09/2024 21:17

I'm so sorry to hear this. He sounds like a wonderful boy. Remember you gave him the best life full of love.

Cnon · 18/09/2024 06:12

Sorry for your loss. As my Dad says "Pets are family."

Tortielady · 18/09/2024 11:13

Many condolences on the loss of your sweet boy. He had a great life with you and he knew he was loved. Keep telling yourself that and in time, thoughts of how he died will recede and you'll be able to think about the sheer joy he gave you.

GorgeousLadyofWrestling · 18/09/2024 14:13

Thank you so much, everyone. Was saying that to DD this morning, each day will get a little better.

This was him - just loved him so much.

Just buried my cat 😢
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ladymalfoy45 · 18/09/2024 16:00

So handsome. The master of all he surveys by the looks of that nonchalant paw.
So sorry. Xxxxxx

MrsCatE · 18/09/2024 16:16

I'm so sorry. I can't believe people are so oblivious and don't notice a cat in the road - it's horrible. I'm almost glad that BastardCat just died at our feet, whilst twirling around in expectation of his breakfast.

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