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Loss and Hope (TW)

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Youthiswastedontheyoung · 28/08/2024 20:26

We lost our beautiful 1 yo cat earlier this year under tragic circumstances - he was hit by a car and killed (instantly thank goodness). A kind chap posted on our local village FB page that a cat had been knocked down and he matched the description of ours; sadly we had a gut feeling it was probably our little man. My poor husband collected him from the side of the road and, without going into detail, he had been pretty badly hurt before he passed. We do wonder if the car was speeding 😢
Out of of our three kids - 4, 14 and 17 - it was the 14 yo who was most affected although now he has accepted the loss and is ready to move on.
Tomorrow we are visiting a rescue cat and tbh I'm feeling a range of emotions - excited of course, but also it does bring the loss of our boy home again. But I'm mostly feeling excited and nervous so feel that's a good sign?
She was taken in as a pregnant stray and is currently in foster care. Her foster mummy sounds absolutely lovely! She is around 1 yo and is a semi long-haired tortoiseshell.
Any tips or advice?
It's lovely to be able to share my feelings here as, understandably, my husband struggles to talk about the loss of our first cat.

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Toddlerteaplease · 28/08/2024 21:18

I found adopting an other was the best way to move on. I've never forgotten my lost girls. But the new ones have really helped. I adopted very quickly each time, because it was right for me. Good luck!

Breadcat24 · 28/08/2024 21:31

Wishing you well torties are vocal nutjobs it should be very distracting

Youthiswastedontheyoung · 29/08/2024 22:33

We went to visit her today. She was naturally very shy at first and just wanted to hide, love her. But after a little while she popped her head out for a little fuss and accepted a few treats we put down for her.
She had three kittens whilst she was in care and was a great mummy. They all went really quickly (as kittens tend to) but she has been in foster around four months now. Her foster mummy was lovely and has a heart of gold.
We've said yes to becoming her forever home and so once everything is in place she will be with us.
I can't wait ♥️

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Janwholovesjam · 29/08/2024 22:39

Torties are just the best! They have so much character and I’m sure your new addition will be a lovely and welcome addition to your family.
They say they have ‘Tortitude’ and it’s true! They can be stubborn and they know what they want, but they are just so lovely.
The naughty tortie will steal your heart!

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 29/08/2024 23:05

We had our beautiful ten year old girl pts earlier this year after a surprise cancer diagnosis. She was my best wee chum and it absolutely broke me.

Almost indecently quickly, we adopted a little orange menace who is just over a year old. He’s been with us just over four months, and out of the blue tonight DP said to me that it has been “magical” watching me open my heart to him after wondering if I would actually be able to love him because I was (still am) so heartbroken. I’m so glad we have him, and I think the fact he is so different has been really positive for me.

Best of luck with your new girl, OP.

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