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“Stray” cat quandry

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SigrunGard · 10/08/2024 19:23

So, my mum has had a young cat ( no more than 5 months old) effectively living in her garden for the last few weeks. He was very thin but after a few weeks of regular feeding he’s now at a good weight. He’s very friendly and comes in and out of the house for cuddles and to sit on a lap.

We took him to the vets today for a check over and it turns out he is microchipped- we were surprised as we hadn’t been able to feel one. Any way the owner was contacted and said that he had moved away but if my mum just shut him out of the house, he’d go back to his son’s .

Mum is at a loss as to what to do for the best. She’s happy to keep him and he gets on well with her existing cat but the owner hasn’t said she can have him. We haven’t keep him shut in at all and if he wanted to go back to the owners son he has had every opportunity!

so wise denizens of the Litter Tray - any experience of this sort of situation.? Mum will keep feeding him anyway as he was so thin when he arrived. But what about the fact he has an owner?

photo for cat tax!

“Stray” cat quandry
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SigrunGard · 12/08/2024 11:15

@CatChant - thank you. I’d take him myself but my 14 year old ginger and white has very strong views on other cats so much as setting paw in his garden!

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sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 11:20

If you neglect, underfeed and fail to provide them with shelter they will vote with their feet like the sensible little animals they

While this may be true, lots of cats are just greedy buggers and if they're offered food and fuss, they'll take it, no matter how well cared for they are at home.

One of mine is always going to the neighbours and screaming pitifully at them like he's never had a meal in his life - he's also young and quite skinny and scrawny looking even though he eats constantly.

He's certainly not neglected and is very much loved - he's just a greedy little chancer!

Pixiedust1234 · 12/08/2024 11:43

One of mine is always going to the neighbours and screaming pitifully at them like he's never had a meal in his life - he's also young and quite skinny and scrawny looking even though he eats constantly.
Check his food quality as that is not normal. He should be satiated with being fed decent food on a regular basis. Is he wheat intolerant or does he require a higher percentage of meat in his food? Or even worms?

sleekcat · 12/08/2024 11:45

SigrunGard · 12/08/2024 10:42

The photo was taken Saturday after he’s been filling his face for 4 weeks! We’ve had naturally slim cats ourselves but never felt ribs/spine as you could on him

He sleeps in the garden, doesn’t ever appear to leave it. No matter what time you go out there he will appear. Mum let hers out around 3.30am the other day and he was there.

In that case I would say the cat is either lost (but the owner didn't indicate that to the vet, so very unlikely) or doesn't want to return to its home because it isn't happy there. If I was your mum, I'd take it in - she obviously cares about him and he will have a lovely home with her.

BeWaryDeer · 12/08/2024 12:56

CatChant · 12/08/2024 11:12

@SigrunGard I always say you get out of cats what you put into them. If you give them security, affection, sufficient food and shelter they will repay you a thousandfold in loyalty and companionship.

If you neglect, underfeed and fail to provide them with shelter they will vote with their feet like the sensible little animals they are.

Your Mum hasn’t just “taken someone’s cat”. She’s fed a half-starved, neglected kitten who needed help and she’s prepared to go on doing so because she is a kind person who won’t stand by while an animal suffers. Well done to her.

Rescue shelters are drowning in unwanted cats and kittens. The owner has moved away and left the cat, and his son can’t be bothered to collect him. He shouldn’t even be outside fending for himself at this age.

Realistically, no one is going to make this little one’s life any better but your lovely Mum.

I agree

Pudmyboy · 12/08/2024 13:09

CatChant · 12/08/2024 11:12

@SigrunGard I always say you get out of cats what you put into them. If you give them security, affection, sufficient food and shelter they will repay you a thousandfold in loyalty and companionship.

If you neglect, underfeed and fail to provide them with shelter they will vote with their feet like the sensible little animals they are.

Your Mum hasn’t just “taken someone’s cat”. She’s fed a half-starved, neglected kitten who needed help and she’s prepared to go on doing so because she is a kind person who won’t stand by while an animal suffers. Well done to her.

Rescue shelters are drowning in unwanted cats and kittens. The owner has moved away and left the cat, and his son can’t be bothered to collect him. He shouldn’t even be outside fending for himself at this age.

Realistically, no one is going to make this little one’s life any better but your lovely Mum.

This post makes excellent sense!

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 13:33

Pixiedust1234 · 12/08/2024 11:43

One of mine is always going to the neighbours and screaming pitifully at them like he's never had a meal in his life - he's also young and quite skinny and scrawny looking even though he eats constantly.
Check his food quality as that is not normal. He should be satiated with being fed decent food on a regular basis. Is he wheat intolerant or does he require a higher percentage of meat in his food? Or even worms?

Edited

He was at the vets last week and is perfectly healthy - but we got him at five weeks as a semi-feral so he's always been small and greedy. He's also just very chatty and has been since day one.

Thanks for the concern though ☺️

BeWaryDeer · 12/08/2024 15:12

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 13:33

He was at the vets last week and is perfectly healthy - but we got him at five weeks as a semi-feral so he's always been small and greedy. He's also just very chatty and has been since day one.

Thanks for the concern though ☺️

He sounds very much like my little visitor.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 17:49

@BeWaryDeer if he wasn't mine I could definitely be convinced that he's being neglected somewhere 😂

He's a real character opportunist and definitely has orange cat energy. I've regularly caught him in the sink eating whatever leftovers he can find and he absolutely loves to beg 🙈

Notamum12345577 · 12/08/2024 17:50

SigrunGard · 10/08/2024 19:23

So, my mum has had a young cat ( no more than 5 months old) effectively living in her garden for the last few weeks. He was very thin but after a few weeks of regular feeding he’s now at a good weight. He’s very friendly and comes in and out of the house for cuddles and to sit on a lap.

We took him to the vets today for a check over and it turns out he is microchipped- we were surprised as we hadn’t been able to feel one. Any way the owner was contacted and said that he had moved away but if my mum just shut him out of the house, he’d go back to his son’s .

Mum is at a loss as to what to do for the best. She’s happy to keep him and he gets on well with her existing cat but the owner hasn’t said she can have him. We haven’t keep him shut in at all and if he wanted to go back to the owners son he has had every opportunity!

so wise denizens of the Litter Tray - any experience of this sort of situation.? Mum will keep feeding him anyway as he was so thin when he arrived. But what about the fact he has an owner?

photo for cat tax!

Course he won’t leave, he is getting fed! Hopefully you will explain to your mum why feeding other peoples cats is not a good idea…

AquaFurball · 12/08/2024 17:53

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 05:52

You can't just take someone's cat 😬

Honestly, stop feeding it and let it alone. It's not your mums' cat. I'd she wants a cat, she should go to a rescue centre and adopt one, not take someone else's!

I wonder if all the posters supporting this would be happily saying the same if it was their cat being fed and "catnapped" like this by a neighbour.

Owner moved, left cat behind (they didn't update chip details) That's abandonment and is illegal in the UK.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 18:01

@AquaFurball it's not been abandoned - the owner has moved and left the cat with his son.

AquaFurball · 12/08/2024 19:19

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 18:01

@AquaFurball it's not been abandoned - the owner has moved and left the cat with his son.

The son doesn't own the cat either.

justasking111 · 12/08/2024 22:28

AquaFurball · 12/08/2024 19:19

The son doesn't own the cat either.

Nobody owns a cat. Cats have staff 😂

AquaFurball · 12/08/2024 23:24

justasking111 · 12/08/2024 22:28

Nobody owns a cat. Cats have staff 😂

😹 Overworked and paid in furballs on the bed/rug/slippers

Catname · 12/08/2024 23:42

We acquired one of our cats after he decided he liked hanging out in our garden, then moved into the house when we had the doors open in the summer. I took him to the vet to be checked and he was scanned and the previous owner was called but they didn’t answer. I was told he was registered to a very local address but he had voted with his paws and wasn’t going home. The vet told me they wouldn’t inoculate him or perform any other treatment since he wasn’t my cat.

(Thankfully, he didn’t need any treatment until a year later, I took him back for a check up whilst my other cats had their boosters and the vet again tried to contact the owner. This time they answered. It turned out the cat was the product of a broken home and had been left with the other partner. The registered owner was prepared to sign his microchip over to me since her ex had essentially abandoned the cat by making no attempt to track him down and the cat has lived with us since)

Mia184 · 13/08/2024 21:02

I am in Germany and have never experienced a vet checking a chip and the owner details.
When I switched to my current cat with the cat I had then, I just said that she was chipped and that was it.
Do British vets really check the owner details?

SigrunGard · 13/08/2024 21:21

Mia184 · 13/08/2024 21:02

I am in Germany and have never experienced a vet checking a chip and the owner details.
When I switched to my current cat with the cat I had then, I just said that she was chipped and that was it.
Do British vets really check the owner details?

It’s not done usually, but we took him specifically to be checked over and to see if he was chipped. We were rather hoping we could reunite him with a family who was missing him!

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Theunamedcat · 13/08/2024 21:45

Mia184 · 13/08/2024 21:02

I am in Germany and have never experienced a vet checking a chip and the owner details.
When I switched to my current cat with the cat I had then, I just said that she was chipped and that was it.
Do British vets really check the owner details?

Mine check the chip most times they go I've just had to have one rechipped because his is "lost" it's a quick swipe over look at the screen while I'm telling them what's wrong or why I'm there

Since the guidelines changed apparently it's more common

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